As I write this Wednesday Wisdom, I want to pause and acknowledge you—this incredible community who keeps showing up, even when it isn’t easy. I want to acknowledge you for staying open to love, connection, and growth—especially after years of being single. That takes courage. It’s not easy to keep believing when you’ve tried, dated, hoped, and been disappointed more than once. I want to acknowledge you for continuing to put yourself out there. Whether that meant online dating, coming to events, having brave conversations, or simply saying “yes” when part of you wanted to stay home, you showed up. I want to acknowledge you for the impact you’ve had on others in this community. A kind word, a shared story, a knowing smile, these things matter more than you realize. I want to acknowledge you for trying something new this year. Joining a new community. Dating again. Healing old patterns. Setting boundaries. Choosing differently. Any new step risks rejection, but you did it anyway. That’s powerful. I want to acknowledge you for letting go of something—or someone—that no longer served you. Old relationships, old beliefs, old versions of yourself. That kind of release takes bravery and self-respect. I want to acknowledge you for betting on yourself. For deciding that you are worth love, companionship, joy, and fulfillment—at any age. I want to acknowledge your uniqueness. Being fully you is not a liability in dating—it’s the whole point. I want to acknowledge that this chapter of life can be challenging. Navigating love, independence, loss, hope, and reinvention is real work. There is no “right” timeline, only the one that feels aligned for you. And finally, I want to acknowledge you for making it through 2025 with your sanity intact. It was a challenging year for many, emotionally, personally, and relationally. You’re still here. Still growing. Still open to possibility. I’m proud of you. And I’m grateful to walk this journey with you. 💛 Dessi

Most people wait until they "succeed" to celebrate. That's the problem. Success isn't a finish line. It's a pattern of behavior - taking small actions that in time lead to a big result. If you only celebrate outcomes, you're training yourself to ignore the thing that actually matters most: showing up every day in small ways. So today, I want you to acknowledge one win from this week. Not a result. An action. Every time you celebrate the right actions, you're rewiring your brain to associate dating with progress. So drop a comment below and share: "A win I'm celebrating this week is…" It can be big. It can be tiny. It just has to be something you did.

Because it's the last month of the year and we want to go out with a BANG! Questions to think about: 1. How do you want to finish the year? 2. What's something that you want to accomplish before the year ends? 3. If fear or confidence were not an issue, what would you be doing right now to set yourself up for a WIN in January? (every small itty bitty step counts!) I want to hear from all of you! 💥

Hey everyone — let's celebrate your WINS from the past seven days! 🎉 Each week, we pause to acknowledge the progress, not perfection. Because success in dating (and in life) is all about small, aligned actions that move us forward. So… what are your wins from the past week? Big or small — they all count! Think things like: *Scheduled a first date *Joined a new singles group *Updated my profile or added new photos *Smiled or started a convo with someone at the gym *Said yes to something I would normally say no to *Practiced a little more compassion twds myself...etc. Drop your wins below 👇 — and remember, this is a brag-safe zone. We cheer for each other here. What’s one thing you did in the past 7 days that made you feel a little more open, confident, or connected? PS. Let's keep it positive...there will be other opportunities to share challenges 😃