I think for too long, I've been focused on the wrong thing. I am just now beginning to adjust my focus. I've always fixated on what hell is, this lake of unquenchable fire, darkness, fear, gnashing of teeth, pain, despair, etc.
What I've been missing this whole time, is the worst part. Separation from God. I'm beginning to understand that, yes, all of that stuff is bad, but God and being with him is SO good that being separated from him IS the worst part.