The Yelling Was My Fault
I used to start my son's day by yelling at him.
The clock would hit 7:15 AM, and he’d still be in his pajamas, moving like molasses. I could feel the heat rising in my chest. The pressure of running late took over, and I’d snap.
I’d yell about breakfast. I’d yell about him not being dressed. And then I’d spend the whole drive to school feeling like garbage because I sent my boy into his day with my anger.
A couple of months ago, on that drive to school, I realized something had to change. I told him, "It is my responsibility to help hold you capable and support you, not just get mad when you struggle."
That night, instead of lecturing him, we sat down and made a checklist together.
Now, he uses that checklist every single morning. I don't have to be the "yelling dad" anymore. I just guide him through the steps he helped create.
I learned that peace in the home doesn't happen by accident. It happens when we lead.
My son didn't need my frustration; he needed a tool. When I shifted from demanding results to supporting the process, the friction disappeared.
Being a Peacemaker Dad isn't about being soft. It's about building the structure your family needs to succeed so you can stop fighting and start connecting.
- Where is there constant friction in your house because you haven't provided a clear tool or system?
2. What is one simple checklist you can build with your child tonight to solve a recurring problem?
Your action today: Pick the most stressful time of your day (morning, bedtime, etc.). Sit down with your family and write out the 3-5 steps needed to win that moment.
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