10d (edited) • Mindset & Reflection
Not sure
Hey guys,
Apologies for disappearing and not posting for a bit. So, let's rain check. I've had a couple of dates with a girl I like, and they went super well.
In person she's great, slightly introverted but still opens up well. We've had quite a lot of back and forth chatting, chemistry is there. Her chemistry isn't as making fun as mine. But, people are different for a reason. We are currently planning a 3rd date for next Saturday. However, my only concern with this girl is her messaging back is so slow.
For example, after Date 1. I messaged saying I had a great time, and she didn't reply. I'd assume she ghosted me. So, I messaged again a few days later. She actually replied, and said she was away that weekend. I left my number on a message back. She actually messaged me. So we organised Date 2. Date 2 she cancelled due to illness last minute. (I had already got there) Fair enough, difference is she actually rescheduled.
Date 2 we went for a long walk and talk, had lunch together, and it was a great time. We discussed in Date 2 about future date ideas, and going for a meal for Date 3. I've been trying to organise this over text message as I'm quite keen.
I haven't felt attraction like this before in any interaction in my 34 years on this planet. She said she was up for going for a meal as planned, we have the location. She said she would send me her schedule to organise. Well... I waited 3 days and have no message of the schedule.
(So I got in my head overthinking that perhaps she's not interested?) I took another shot to check in with her, to ask how her week was going and stuff. She said she was with family this Easter Weekend, and asked me if I still wanted the meal next Saturday? She text me back, it took her about half a day (14 hours). I replied right away to get something locked in. I'm still waiting to hear back.
My concern are these things actually: Myself getting too attached too quickly. I'm a big texter and a big communicator. I'm not used to this waiting for replies and stuff for so long. Do I start calling her from next week to check in?
Or do I need to be real with myself, this feels like I'm doing most of the chasing and need to back off and wait for her to start doing some balanced chasing.
It feels like she's not as interested and playing games. Even the busiest of people in life can just text once and plan something, then show up. That's all it takes haha!
I really like this girl, oddly enough I can't stop thinking about her! That's not a good sign haha.
Apologies for the clunkiness of text, just felt I'd update you my friends. For the record, we have hugged multiple times on Date 2, no kissing yet. I was going to go for it, but she didn't seem ready for what I was noticing.
Happy Easter
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