Aug '25 (edited) • General discussion
Clingy foster daughter of sexual trauma
Hey ladies. I hope your day is blessed. I'm happily married and have a son who doesn't live with us anymore so we have decided we wanted another child. So I'm in a situation where we got a foster child at 12 1/2 years old. We prayed about it and decided to take her in. So I have noticed she used to be at my husbands youth shelter a couple of years back and knows my husband. Sadly she was raped by her stepfather and had a baby at 10!!! She doesn't have the baby right now. So when she came into our home, she was so sweet. Then it came to pass that I've noticed that she has been so clingy to my husband!!! I'm like wait a minute!! We had a talk with her about showing me love the same way as him and I've developed a relationship with her but it's not really the same. For example when I sit down on the couch and my hubby is in the kitchen, guess where she goes? I'm there was a time where she has fallen asleep with my husband! But I tried to get her to open up to me and one night she fell asleep on me. I thought we had we were great. We went out town for her birthday and she held my hand. Recently she turned 13 and likes to play with my husband more than me. She's always up under him. I've literally broken down and cried and like what did I do? I always wanted a daughter who will love me like shevsays she does. It's like she is wishy washy. But she did tell me she never had a mother that she spent some time with and I told her I want to be that mother for her. I don't get if she understands.i guess she will be a daddy's girl like my son is a mother's boy. But I still want the hugs and kisses she gives my husband. I feel like I'm fighting more for my husband Ms affection because of her! What can I do about this? I've talked about this several times and it's like he does understand from my prospective! I wish we could see a family therapist!
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Clingy foster daughter of sexual trauma
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