Mar 15 • Wisdom, Wins and Community
“You’re committing adultery.”
One of the most common accusations thrown at remarried couples in the church is this
“You’re committing adultery.”
Not committed.
Not made a mistake.
But committing, as if the marriage itself is a permanent state of sin.
But let’s think about how language actually works.
If a police officer pulls you over and says:
“You are speeding.”
What does that mean?
It means you committed the act at that moment.
The officer does not mean you will now be speeding for the rest of your life.
The violation happened when the act happened.
You slow down. You move forward.
Everyone understands this.
But when the topic is remarriage, suddenly some people treat it like the unforgivable sin.
That’s not how language works.
And more importantly, that’s not how God works.
Romans 6 says
“Shall we continue in sin so that grace may increase? May it never be.” (NASB)
Christ didn’t come and die, so people could stay trapped in their past.
He died so people could repent, change direction, and walk in newness of life.
Now let’s be clear.
This is not permission to blow off the importance of marriage.
Someone who jumps from marriage to marriage without repentance has a completely different problem.
But there are also thousands of people who
• were cheated on
• were abandoned
• made mistakes before they understood God’s will
• came to Christ later in life
And now they are doing everything they can to build a home.
Those marriages are not the enemy.
And constantly beating them with their past does not produce righteousness.
It produces shame, silence, and broken congregations.
Blended families are already doing one of the hardest things a household can do
Building stability after chaos.
Instead of tearing those families down, the church should be asking better questions.
Are they faithful now?
Are they raising their children according to Gods Word and training their hearts?
Are they building a home that honors God?
Because the point of death on a cross was never been to keep people chained to their worst moment.
The goal is transformation.
In our home we say it this way
Make your remarriage your last marriage.
Build it right.
Honor God with it.
And move on.
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“You’re committing adultery.”
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