Its Not Chess
A week and a half ago, I got fired.
And honestly… it was probably the one thing my old boss and I agreed on.
I didn’t belong there.
My wife and I had already been working on something for a couple of months before that.
Not just a business idea…
A way of thinking.
It started after I landed in the ER with my heart out of rhythm.
That’ll woke me up fast.
And I made a decision
If I’ve got another strong push left in me…
it’s not going to be spent building someone else’s life.
What's my point?
I’ve always hated chess.
I get it… strategy, thinking ahead, all that.
But it always felt like a game designed to show you where you suck.
And a lot of families are living like that right now.
Every move feels like a reaction.
Every conversation feels like a counter-move.
Every mistake feels like you’re losing ground.
That’s exhausting.
There’s a scene in Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan where Kirk talks about the Kobayashi Maru test.
The unwinnable Star Fleet test.
Everyone else learns to accept it.
Kirk changes the program.
Here’s the question
Did he cheat…
or did he refuse to accept a broken system?
That’s what my wife and I are doing right now.
Not just in business, but in how we live and lead our home.
This isn’t strategy.
This is design.
Strategy says:
“What’s my next move?”
Design says:
“Why are we even playing this game?”
A lot of blended families are stuck trying to “win” inside a bad system that was never designed to work.
Competing loyalties
Old wounds
Constant reaction instead of leadership
You can’t out-strategize a broken structure.
So we’re doing something different.
We’re designing the win into the system.
Clear roles
Clear leadership
Clear expectations
Built on truth, not emotion
Kirk didn’t cheat.
He asked the question most people are too afraid to ask
“Who says it has to be this way?”
Same question applies to your home.
Who says your marriage has to feel like a constant negotiation?
Who says your family has to stay divided?
Who says you’re stuck reacting instead of leading?
Life isn’t chess.
Chess is already designed.
Your family… your marriage… your leadership…
That’s still being built.
“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”
— Bible (Romans 12:2, NASB)
If you want something different,
you don’t just play harder.
You build differently.
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Its Not Chess
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