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Dec '25 •
NEW MEMBERS: CLICK HERE👇🏼
Hello and welcome to Blended Family Momentum (Free) This community is the best place for you, if you want to: ✅Learn how to be unified with your spouse ✅Follow our simple steps then do the work to make your marriage the best it has ever been. Comment "Start" then click on this link: Welcome to the Blended Family Momentum Community - Onboarding · Blended Family Momentum
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Dec '25 •
Blended Family Momentum – Community Rules
This community exists to help you protect your marriage, grow in self-awareness, and build real unity in your blended family. These rules aren’t about control — they’re about creating a space that actually works. Please read them carefully. They matter. 1. This Is a Clarity & Growth Community This is a place for reflection, responsibility, and forward movement. You are welcome to: - Share situations for clarity and growth - Ask thoughtful questions - Take ownership of your mindset and behavior You may not: - Name, blame, or attack your spouse, ex, children, or stepchildren - Post from a place of victimhood without personal responsibility - Use the community to validate unhealthy patterns Growth requires ownership. We will always redirect toward that. 2. No Venting or Bashing Venting may feel relieving, but it keeps people stuck — and it pulls others into the same cycle. This community is not a place to: - Bash your spouse or ex - Gather people to “side with you” - Repeatedly rehash the same grievances If you’re feeling overwhelmed, pause and ask: “What do I need clarity on? “What’s my part in this?” That’s where growth begins. 3. Talking About Exes (Read This Carefully) Constant focus on exes often keeps us locked in blame — and blame kills momentum. Instead of focusing on what your ex did or didn’t do: - Focus on what you can control - Ask how you can respond differently - Shift the conversation toward boundaries, clarity, and growth If a situation involves an ex, keep references brief, factual, and neutral — no character attacks. 4. Marriage Comes First This is a marriage-first community. That means: - We do not undermine spouses - We do not pit partners against each other - We do not validate behavior that damages unity Posts or comments that encourage division in a marriage will be removed. Protecting the marriage protects the family. 5. Advice Must Be Positive & Experiential Advice should never be harsh, prescriptive, or shaming.
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Mar 28 •
You Don’t Live Under What Only Pointed the Way
There’s a reason Hebrews 8 exists. Because too many people are still sticking to something God already replaced. Hebrews 8:13 (NASB) “When He said, ‘A new covenant,’ He has made the first obsolete. But whatever is becoming obsolete and growing old is ready to disappear.” Where does that land for you? Obsolete. Not improved. Not upgraded. Not “still useful.” Obsolete. Say it again. Obsolete! The Old Covenant had a job. It exposed sin. It set the standard. It proved people wouldnt meet it. It didn’t save you. It drove you to God. So where do people get stuck…? At the cross And they never leave. Still measuring. Still striving. Still living like they’re under a system of failure. That’s not humility. That’s missing the assignment. Hebrews 8:10 (NASB) “I will put My laws into their minds, and write them on their hearts…” That’s the shift. Not external pressure… internal transformation. A life to live. Not a checklist So let’s ask the real questions If the law already proved you couldn’t do it… why are you still trying to follow it? If Christ fulfilled it… why are you still acting like it’s unfinished? If the covenant changed… Why havent you? Galatians 5:1 (NASB) “It was for freedom that Christ set us free…” Freedom from what? From the very system that showed you your need. Here’s a truth most won’t say If you’re still living under the law, you’re not walking in freedom… You’re standing at the cross, stuck instead of moving forward. The Old Covenant leads you to Christ. The New Covenant leads you to walk in newness of life. So the question isn’t whether the law mattered. It did. The question is Are you still living under what was only meant to bring you to Him? Stop visiting the cross. Start walking in the life that comes after it.
Apr 3 •
The Wise Woman….
Here is the link to Mike’s post that I am refernecing in this video. https://www.skool.com/blendedfamilymomentum/james-1-faith-that-actually-shows-up-at-home?p=72f50899 I hope it helps you ♥️
Jan 6 •
The Standard That Builds Teamwork in a Blended Family
Why Standards Matter More Than You Think... One of the biggest struggles we see in blended families isn’t attitude, behavior, or even conflict. It’s confusion. When a home doesn’t have clear standards, it feels like a wave crashing onto shore—everyone reacting, no one quite sure what’s expected, and a lot of unnecessary friction that slowly erodes trust. Teamwork doesn’t grow in chaos. It grows in clarity. 1️⃣ Teamwork Starts with a shared standard A standard isn’t a list of punishments. It’s an agreement. It’s you and your spouse deciding, together, “This is how we live in this home.” In blended families, this matters even more because: - There’s already been disruption - Kids come from different histories - Exes, schedules, and loyalties add pressure Without a shared standard, children don’t feel safe, they feel like they’re navigating moving goalposts. And when standards are inconsistent, kids don’t rise to the highest one. They drift toward the easiest one. Unfortunately, that’s human nature. 2️⃣ One Standard Means One Standard Teamwork breaks down quickly when: - One child gets exceptions - Another is held to a higher bar - Parents adjust rules based on mood, guilt, or exhaustion This doesn’t create compassion—it creates resentment. Kids notice when: - “That rule applies to me, but not them.” - “Mom means it… unless she’s tired.” - “Dad says no… unless it’s inconvenient.” Over time, inconsistency damages: - Sibling relationships - Parent-child trust - Stepparent credibility - Marital unity A standard only works if it applies across the board and that includes you. 3️⃣ Never Move the Standard instead Re-Evaluate It There’s a difference between being rigid and being wise. If you set a standard that no one can realistically meet, the answer isn’t to keep lowering it—it’s to re-evaluate it. Ask: - Is this age-appropriate? - Is this something we’re willing to enforce together? - Does this align with the kind of family we’re building?
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