I feel….. I am….. My issue….. All statements that we randomly say without thinking about the effect those works have on is. When we label ourselves we are concreting those emotions. Setting them in stone with no room for change. Language is everything. In our horsemanship, but also in every day life. Be careful what you wish for…..be careful what you say. Take notice of the following statements and notice the difference in them, how each of them feel, even though they are very similar statements. ‘ I am so tired of everything. Life is hard.’ ‘ I’m am feeling tired right now. Life can be hard sometimes.’ One is final, one is temporary. This allows us to feel like we can do something to improve things, rather than feel defeated. Hear yourself. It’s the first step in self care.

You’re not struggling, you have the strength, just not the right perspective.

Some of the biggest struggles come from pointing the finger at the problems and focussing on the pain but how do we stop that habit - it’s easier said than done. But one simple way is to create a character (a vision if you like) for your ego. Really see that version of you as someone else. Then rather than blaming them or pointing the finger, you can have conversations with them. This gives you power, understanding and a tool to use to find out things about yourself you may never have realised. #cowgirlsmindset

Today it’s the start of a change of pace for me. I plan on doing things differently this year. It’s a time to change and what better day to start. So here on day one I will share with you the way I incorporate change. It’s a little woo woo so if you’re not into being open this isn’t the space for you. Being vulnerable here so bear with me, it’s a hard thing to put into words, and I’m sure some things will be lost in translation, but here goes…. Who am I - the biggest question of all. And a simple one to answer from a space of soul. But let’s turn up the heat and ask it from egos perspective. So in my first session of the year I got a huge, and I mean huge, awakening. Ego - I am of service (ok that’s not a bad thing), below others so I must give (now that’s not so nice) and as a giver I don’t deserve to receive (ok now that’ really feels bad). Let’s look at the energy behind receiving…. And I really start to squirm - literally pulling away and trying to leave - I am so repelled by the thought of receiving (now we ask why and when this became my vibration) It’s in my throat and upper chest, like a weight, it’s thick and heavy and very, very negative. It hasn’t always been there, it’s new in this lifetime. It’s a choice (by soul??) yes by soul. (A punishment?) no an experience. (The lesson?) With wealth we give frivolously, without thought for how the receiver feels. We give to make ourselves feel good, better even, and to help without attachment. (Please remember this is my personal experience in a past life, not the truth) I’ll clarify here, my past life feels like I’m in a castle or some sort of noble place and I am from family generational money. So here (now) I have to give thru service (not wealth) and the negativity in receiving forces me to continue to give without receiving !!!! (Those who know me know this to be true. And know that I really struggle to receive) So to change this vibration I need a truth, and it’s only a truth for me (so it may not be for you) and it’s often hard to find. So I have to ask questions here till I feel a shift. That shift only comes when you have a realisation of a belief that doesn’t serve you ….

the joy of the coming weekend nearly always makes Friday a good day. The cool thing is we can make every day feel like this. Take a moment to lock in the feeling, find where it’s sits, how it fees and even have an image of a mascot that suits it. Now you can bring that in any day - it’s yours to enjoy. Take life into your hands 🙌