Those of you who have had horsemanship lessons, I’m sure you have heard the term soft feel and soft hands before. There’s a huge misunderstanding though, that soft hands are not solid. They are very solid when it comes to holding - when a horse has resistance you’ll see many people pull, but the key is to hold - like a solid tree trunk in the ground. No give, but no take either - it’s a hold. Firm, without fight - just hold. But when the horse gives we must soften, slow down and give A LOT. it’s a tough concept to get your head around - so later this week I’ll launch the soft hands course. 6 really good exercises for you and your horse to soften and build the lightness that feels like magic. At half the price of a lesson and lifetime access it’s a great way to start the new year!

Being able to manoeuvre your horse for a gate is just the start of great body control. Here we take you thru what’s needed to succeed at a gate

Don’t forget guys you have a look thru all the categories along the top here - there’s all different tabs to look at !!

And no I’m not going to tell you to set your goals ( yes you should!) or start doing affirmations (yes you should!) or get going to the gym (yes you should!) But I am going to suggest making time…time for you to do the things you love. Life gets in the way, yes. We allow ourselves to get busy or distracted, but if we actually write time into diary for the things we love you will find it has a big effect on your day, week and year. When we write in our own time we are prioritising self care, and I promise when you see it written down you’ll feel special. Follow thru with it. Work can wait, dinner can wait, the washing can wait. Give yourself permission to look after you, no matter what it is your love to do

Some of the biggest struggles come from pointing the finger at the problems and focussing on the pain but how do we stop that habit - it’s easier said than done. But one simple way is to create a character (a vision if you like) for your ego. Really see that version of you as someone else. Then rather than blaming them or pointing the finger, you can have conversations with them. This gives you power, understanding and a tool to use to find out things about yourself you may never have realised. #cowgirlsmindset