Oct '25 • General discussion
Being Nice Is The Reason You Suck At Conversations
Stop Smiling. Stop being a yes man. And stop being nice. Let me explain. ⛔
You only smile just to appear nice and not because you feel like it.
“Oh but I’m a gigly person who likes to smile often…” That’s a lie you tell yourself.
I say that’s a lie because think about it…
When was the last time you smiled when you’re using your phone behind closed doors?
Less. You smile less when you’re alone. (apart from a few exceptions)
You watch several memes, and you smile and laugh at ONLY a few specific ones.
Heck, you might even laugh uncontrollably at a few memes. But they’re just a FEW.
Compare that with when you’re out in public…Somebody says something…
And you’re smiling ear to ear like a giggly little toddler. ☺️
Not because something genuinely appeals to your interest.
But just to be nice to the other person. And it boils my blood to see that. 😡
Don’t get me wrong…I’m not opposed to being nice.
I love it when people smile genuinely.
But I’m opposed to FAKING yourself to the point where you’re doing things for others.
You’re literally a slave to others.
Smiling, nodding, and being a yes-man just so you can ‘preserve’ that relationship.
Just so you can come across as more friendly.
But when was the last time you really felt comfortable around a friend who smiled all the time without disagreeing with you?
If you experienced a person like that…chances are… they're not your closest friends (and can never be one because of this very trait…let me explain).
You see, no matter how much we feel like we’re doing something good by being nice
But the truth is…being nice is actually pretty counter-intuitive.
Think of your best friend. Your best mate, with whom you can shoot the shit for hours without feeling bored.
That best friend who, whenever you approach, you immediately connect without ever going over the boring small talk.
Think of that friend and tell me…are they nice to you?
When you think of that person….does anything ‘nice’ come to mind?
The answer is probably NO.
Instead, it’s usually quite the opposite. You’ll find that they're a bit mean sometimes.
They call you on your bullshit, and they aren’t afraid to mock you whenever you steer away from what they don’t believe in.
And that’s the exact reason why you connect with them so much.
That’s exactly why there is no ‘awkward feeling’ when you’re speaking to them.
That’s the reason why you can speak your heart out to them.
The same applies to you as well.
If you wanna connect with others seamlessly, you need to drop the nice act.
Because people NEED YOU. They need your STRONG OPINIONS. And they NEED YOU to CALL THEM out on their bullshit.
They CRAVE your honest feedback, your weird ideas, and your twisted sense of humor.
Why?
Because they crave having that strong bond that they can’t get nowadays.
They crave the immediate connection without having to talk about the weather first.
They crave that feeling of comfort that comes ONLY from a best friend.
So, be that best friend.
In a world where the bar is so low that people have super low social intelligence, be that best friend
And to be that best friend…you need to stop being nice.
Try it out…and see how many people start respecting you, connecting with you, and how exciting your conversations become.
It’s literally a cheat code.
(if you have any specific problems regarding social interactions, tell me in the comments.)
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Being Nice Is The Reason You Suck At Conversations
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