One thing I wish more people honestly talked about in spiritual spaces is the emotional weight that can come with being spiritually open. Especially as a medium. A lot of people look at mediumship from the outside and think it is beautiful — and it is. It can be healing. Sacred. Deeply meaningful. There is nothing like being able to help somebody reconnect with a loved one, receive clarity, or experience spirit in a real way. But what people do not always understand is that mediumship also places a real demand on the nervous system. This is something that my Grandmother taught me very early in my life. She knew that as a medium if i didn't master my own nervous system, this "gift" would become a "curse". So she taught me "self control" before she taught me any prayers or rituals. She understood that when you are spiritually open, you are not just “imagining things.” You are constantly sensing, processing, feeling, discerning, filtering, receiving, and emotionally translating energy. That is a lot on the body. That is a lot on the mind. That is a lot on the spirit. And if you do not learn balance early, your gift can start draining you instead of guiding you. I know that from experience. There were seasons on my journey where I was emotionally exhausted all the time and did not fully understand why. I could feel people constantly. I could walk into rooms and immediately pick up heaviness, grief, anxiety, anger, sickness, confusion. Sometimes I could feel what people were trying to hide emotionally before they even opened their mouths. And when you are new to spiritual development, especially mediumship development, it can feel confusing because you think:“Well… maybe this is just what being gifted feels like.” But over time, I realized something very important. Being spiritually gifted does not mean you are supposed to be spiritually available to everything. That lesson changed my life. Because when you are open spiritually without boundaries, your nervous system starts carrying too much.

Iburo Iboye Ibosise Baba Victor & Iya Afefe! Greetings, all! What ways have you been honoring yourself? I’m currently spending this holiday morning reading a book on Orí work and I lit a comforting candle. It occurred to me, I light candles for my ancestors and Orisha all the time, but I rarely do it for myself. I’m changing that 😌

My mom and I were talking about going fishing sometime this weekend. I brought up about when she would take me fishing with her at the river when I was younger and she said she remembers. There was one particular time when she did take me to the same river but this time I was sick. She took a white towel and dipped it in the water. After that she placed the towel on my head and told me to sit still. Everytime I go to Kansas I always go back to the same river bank because it feels like home. Any other lakes or rivers here in Texas I don't feel that same energy. Do different bodies of water have certain energies that can feel welcoming or the opposite when you visit?

Is there a particular meaning when you’re burning a candle in a glass if it leaves a residue or not? Does it depend on the type of candle that you’re using?

Anyone else feeling the constant shifts in the weather lately? The back-and-forth between hot and cool temperatures, bright sunshine, rain, clouds, and wind has made me feel especially sensitive to the energy around me. The past couple of days, I’ve felt completely exhausted. My eyes feel like I’ve been crying for days, I’ve had some discomfort in my side, a general heaviness, and a couple of migraines that certainly haven’t helped. At the same time, I’ve found a lot of peace sitting by the beach or in my backyard, simply allowing the wind to move around me. There’s something about those moments that brings a sense of calm and helps me smile. I’ve also noticed nature seems a little more present lately. The wild rabbits that frequent our yard, along with the birds and squirrels, have been coming much closer than usual. I even had a bird seemingly play a little game of tag with me. 😂 It reminds me that even when we’re feeling heavy or drained, nature has a way of grounding us and gently bringing us back into balance. Perhaps it’s a reminder from the ancestors, the Orishas, and the natural world to slow down, listen, and realign ourselves with the rhythm of creation. Wishing everyone a blessed and purposeful week and month ahead. May we find peace in the midst of the shifting winds. 🕊️🌿✨