We tend to think of practice as something intentional. Practicing balance. Practicing meditation. Practicing naming emotions. But we’re practicing all day long, whether we realize it or not. If I repeatedly avoid an emotion, I’m practicing avoidance. If I feed the story every time anger shows up, I’m practicing feeding. If I override my capacity, I’m practicing overriding myself. If I immediately react when I feel uncomfortable, I’m practicing reaction. And yep, I can get really freaking good at all of those. If I keep waiting until I have more time, more capacity, the right mood, or life settles down before I practice something different, I’m strengthening that pattern too. The wave comes. Can I notice the sensation before I explain it? Can I name the emotion without immediately believing the story attached to it? Can I notice whether I’m feeling it, feeding it, dismissing it, or suppressing it? Can I check my actual capacity instead of the capacity I think I’m supposed to have? Can I create one tiny bit of space between what I feel and what I do next? That’s practice. If you’re curious about learning to ride the waves of emotion rather than getting pulled under by them, that’s what I’m exploring with Emotional Surfing: Riding the Waves of Emotion. Comment wave