Abraham Lincoln had a quiet habit that saved him from many regrets.
Whenever he felt offended, misunderstood, or treated unfairly, he would immediately sit down
and write a letter.
He wrote bluntly.
He wrote honestly.
No filters. No restraint.
But here was the discipline:
He never sent it.
He would fold the paper, place it in a drawer, and walk away.
Days later, when his mind was clear, he would reread what he had written. And more often than not, he would think:
“If I send this, I will damage more than I repair.”
So he destroyed the letter.
Not because he lacked courage —
but because he understood a simple truth:
EMOTION DEMANDS AN INSTANT RELEASE.
WISDOM REQUIRES PAUSE.
Lincoln refused to let a passing impulse decide his future.
He gave clarity the final word.
There’s a powerful lesson in that:
NOT EVERY THOUGHT NEEDS TO BE SPOKEN.
A quick reply may feel strong in the moment — but it can cost far more later.
The pause is where self-control becomes real strength.
Wise people are not silent out of fear.
They are silent by choice.
Here are some my favorite quotes by Abraham Lincoln.