Today’s call went deep. We talked about body image — and how for gay men it’s not just personal. It’s cultural. It’s the apps, the social media, the unspoken rule that the better you look the more options you have. And the older you get the more invisible you become. That’s a painful truth nobody talks about enough. We also talked about the paradox of it all. So many of us want a real relationship. But we lead with looks — ours and theirs. The soul comes second. And yet the soul is the only thing that actually lasts. Bodies change. Always. There’s also a difference between taking care of yourself because you love yourself — and doing it because you feel like you’re not enough without it. One comes from strength. The other comes from fear. And a lot of what we see today — the peptides, the TRT, the look-maxing — is fear dressed up as discipline. More options don’t make life easier. If anything we’ve never been more lost. And maybe it’s time we start giving people a real chance — not just the ones who look right, but the ones who feel right. That’s what we talked about today. Monday 6PM PDT · Wednesday 11AM PDT Come as you are.

Okay here we go. Let us know what your sign is and how it does or doesn’t make a difference for you. Or maybe you just think that star signs are a bunch of crap? I’ll start: I’m a Cancer through and through. I wear my heart on my sleeve, cry to every episode of Shrinking, put everyone else’s needs before my own, and if you push me into a corner, I’ll cut you 🦀♋️🙈

On our last call I asked what a healthy relationship actually looks like to you. I have a follow up question :) Are your current habits aligned with that… if no, what would you have to change?

Can any of you tell me from your own experience when a relationship falls apart ?

I'm hoping I can get some opinions on meeting other people in the wild. I struggle with making new friends and I need to be better about being out there, which is part of the reason why I joined this group. My biggest fear is (cliché) getting hurt again. I've been honest about myself in the past and it has lost me a lot of really close friends, so I learned a lot of people pleasing skills growing up (like many of us do). Now, Indiana is not queer friendly at all. The closest place i have to go to is a small club in Bloomington (~1hr away) or make the 2ish hour drive to Indianapolis. I don't do well in clubs or packed rooms. I've tried joining classes and going to parks. I'm at a loss and feel like it's something I'm doing or not doing. Any ideas or suggestions? (Also thought it might be nice in case other people need some ideas too 🙂)