An observation about 'being' rather than 'doing'
This bacame a bit long, apologies... This is my first post and my thoughts are just forming on this observation about 'being' rather than 'doing'. In my spiritual direction practice I regularly hear about burn out and stress from too much striving and doing. When I suggest more silence, quiet prayer and reflective practice (I work from a Carmelite perspective), I'm so often struck by how hard that is for my directees. Really hard. My observation is that so often the striving, doing and burn out is rooted in a deep disconnect with our understanding of our own intrinsic worth. If we believe we need to 'earn' approval, love, value and worth - whether that's in the eyes of God or others in our lives, or even ourselves - we will be forever striving. So we become human doings... In my practice I encourage silent prayer and meditation, reflective practice and prauerfully working through wounds (possibly also suggesting therapy alongside) to begin pondering upon our innate value and how loved we are. So often wounds and trauma have broken our ability to even see ourselves clearly. So often we're unaware of how clouded our vision has become. The Carmelite writers John of the Cross and Teresa of Avila have so much to teach on this healing work, becoming our true selves. Teresa only became aware of her own brokenness in her 40s and went on to become one of the most 'successful', formidable, leading women of history. Well, those are my thoughts after reading a few of the comments here. Apologies for the lengthy post!