Warning…This is a long one! I am not offended if you don’t read all. My middle daughter and I are in Orlando. I am so grateful for the modules 1-3 and Catherine lecture Tuesday May 5th! Day 1 “I put my ears on”. My daughter stressed with her work that she literally arrived at our long planned Disney restbit “unhinged” and disrespectful to the workers at the airport when she picked me up. She had an arrogant, I deserve everything attitude. We got into the car and she continued ranting. I just paused until the rant was over. Then I just parroted back “It sounds like to me your trip here was very stressful and you didn’t stop a long way and make sure that you had meals or even water am I right?” she agreed. Then I said how about we solve that problem first what are you hungry for? Day 2 As we we’re entering Universal Epoch Studios, She became unhinged again. This time the rant went in for longer and when it was over I paused again. This time I was box breathing because of the rant was personal. ( ignoring the personal insults of my adopted 33-year-old) What came out was, “ so what I hear you saying is that your job is so stressful that you feel like you have no place of peace?” she said yes, then I responded with “ Have you considered what options you’d like to take with that?” she calmed down and I did my best to give her space to think. She spun up two more times in the park. And I used the same tactic. I did eventually fail. And at the end of the evening, when she dressed me down for in the line to the bathroom “Didn’t you just go to the bathroom 15 minutes ago?” So I lost my resolve at 10pm and said “there’s no need to embarrass me in front of this line of people.” And I walked to find another restroom. And instead of following along behind. She left the park, while I was in the restroom. Without any text message or telling me where she went. It was closing time and she abandoned me. With no way to get to the hotel and not even an address for it. She finally answered the text message and told me she went to the car. I had to ask where the car was and with no signs in the parking she to get walk back to find me.

Thank you, Catherine, for the call last night. I needed to walk through my emotions.Your words were needed and deeply felt. I matter. I am valued. I am seen and known by others, in addition to my family. Thank you for creating this community of people who are walking through life in support of each other. I am enough as I am growing and learning. Thank you.

Is there a link for the small group intro this evening?

We are all headed somewhere. The question is where. People either grow, move forward, and evolve, or get stuck, stop learning, and become a victim. It really boils down to these two perspectives and we get to choose. We often fight change because it scares us and reveals how little power we have. The status quo can be comfortable, at least temporarily, because we think we "know" what we are doing, what we can count on, and where we are going. Unfortunately, that is really not true. My friend, Jamie Winship, has a book coming out, "The War of Worldviews", where he discusses the factors that reveal what path we are on. Most of us are on a separated worldview path where we live in scarcity, we want certainty, we seek perfectionism, and we are self-protective. In a connected worldview, we believe we are enough, we can live in the mystery of the unknown to take the next step, we embrace fallibility (mistakes are opportunities) and we stop surviving because we learn what it means to really love. The filters by which we view life impacts every element of our lives. Most of us don't know the perspectives by which we walk out each day but it matters. We are not victims to our thinking - we choose how we see things. What choices are you making?