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12d •
Using Doug Noll Affect Labeling style in Chapgpt for emails
I have been editing my emails recently for a family business dispute using affect labeling style edit and it is really helpful in crafting these emails with neutrality .
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A further reflection. After numerous re writes today , on my walk tonight I had a light bulb moment. I realized that when I used ChatGPT with Doug’s affect labeling request … it was affect labeling my feelings . For me , it was a moment where as I’m learning to hone my skills , just using this even when I might be writing a reflection or any kind of letter , it helps me identify possible affect labels . So far ,it has been pretty accurate rewording . I am definitely going to use this as a teaching tool for myself .
12d •
Saturday session
We had a great session today . It was so informative to hear how affect labeling and all the science supporting it intersects with education . I was able to hear how Jim is using these tools in his middle school science class. It is inspiring to hear his commitment to finding tools to help his students find some kind of engagement and success at his challenging school. Piece by piece he is finding ways to engage the students and listen them into existence. So inspiring .
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🧠 Logic is the 2%. Stop talking to it.
When a confrontation starts, our instinct is to go to the "Facts." "You didn't turn in your homework." "The rule is no phones." "I've been very patient with you." These are all 2% statements. They are useless until the 98% (the emotion) is handled. Question for the group: How do you stop yourself from "defending the rules" when a student is attacking you?
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Looking forward to everyone’s suggestions
15d •
🛑 The "Calm Down" Trap
We’ve all done it. A student is melting down, and we say, "Take a breath and calm down." Suddenly, they're screaming louder. In the comments below, share one phrase you used to think was "helpful" but now realize was actually invalidating. I’ll start: "I understand how you feel." (It’s a lie. You don’t, and they know it).
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“It’s not that bad , it’s going to be ok”
Sep '25 •
Welcome Video
1. Watch the 90‑second Welcome Video (embedded). 2. Introduce yourself with 3 lines: • Role/industry • One situation you want to de‑escalate • One thing you want this week. 3. Like or comment on two other intros. After you finish, open Communication Fundamentals (Lesson 1) to earn your first points.
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@Tonya Mcpherson Hi Tonya. During my time as the director of an after school program and right at the beginning of my journey with Doug and these tools , I had the opportunity to use them with two brothers. Both middle school who had recently had their parents divorce. Behaviors all over the place. I was able to sit down with the younger one on one and started affect labeling him and magically he calmed down and connected with me. After that, he listened and followed any requests I asked. He also became a leader within the after school program. It was truly amazing how powerful that one conversation with me using affect labeling ended up being. I could see and feel him look at me and realize I was actually “ listening him into existence .” It was the one event that sold me.
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@Tracey Pitman what a great feed /dialogue here with you and Doug. Very informative
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@terese-higgins-5026
72 year young..mother of one…grandmother of 5.
Active 4d ago
Joined Jan 10, 2026
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