@Ellie Hayes yes it's a big responsibility that I have to weave into my own self care. If I hadn't been working with my own spiritual development over the years, and feel that I have guidance around me as a support, I'd be feeling quite broken by now. I do need to hear other parents reference points to help me adjust it or just accept my own findings. As we often don't get taught how to be parents, we have to find out what works with each child that comes into the family.

Your a bit like a mums mum. I use to get a lot from chatting to my mum about my kids. She passed a few years ago so I felt I lost that exchange for a while. And she never liked to impose her view upon me, she just listened and help me see things for myself. Thanks for your community.♥️

Im trying to get to bed earlier at night. We are all pretty bad for it tho. And then late up in the morning. We all seem to have shifted time zone. We all need to sort our sleep patterns out together. ♥️

My 7 year old, John, is the hyperactive one at the moment. My son Beau, 13yrs, and daughter, Kay, 17 yrs, both liked to spin around indoors or out in the garden. When they were small enough I could hold their hands and swing them out as I spun them around. Kay still has sensory issues, doesn't like noise or others to sing indoors. She didn't like her hair being brushed, so ended up with serious bed hair on several occasions. Since going through puberty she doesn't mind her hair being brushed, as long as It doesn't get pulled. My boys are more into cuddles than Kay is. They will automatically give me a hug or ask for one. John likes to give everyone hugs at the groups we go to. Tho John is quite into having physical play fights with his brother, they get out of hand quite quickly...with John hitting or slapping Beau, even trying to head but him on the body or the arm if he's being held. I'm hoping that the karate they do will help them to be more disciplined and respectful towards each other. John doesn't hit his friends. Even in Karate, if they do any sparing , he dances around a lot and is likely to be the one who doesn't land any hits. Beau is probably the one who gets least of my attention at the moment. I don't want him to be the proverbial middle child who misses out and gets pushed into the background by the other two, who are louder than he is. The kids have taught me a lot . I could talk about them forever and still find out more about their individuality, and my own.

@Ashley Dobbie Thanks for talking about this.

I'm finding that a lot is simply shared in the community itself. I don't need any deep stuff as such. Small things at the right moment can be key to understanding what is going on for my kids at the moment. I do believe that life brings to us all that we need, if we stay open to receiving.