“On Sundays, my ADHD really shows when I…” I’ll go first: “…need a nap after deciding what to eat.” Your turn 👇

Be honest… it’s Saturday night and you are: A - Out but mentally already home B - Home and absolutely not leaving C - “Just resting my eyes” D - Half watching something, half scrolling E - Hyper focused on something extremely unnecessary F - Asleep but still in the group somehow Comment your letter 👇 Explanations optional. Chaos encouraged.

Your nervous system does not respond to logic. It responds to pattern, repetition, and safety. Which means: You can understand what would help you and still feel unable to do it. That’s why: - Rest can feel uncomfortable - Calm can feel boring or unsafe - Stillness can create anxiety - Change can feel threatening even when it’s positive stop asking “Why can’t I just do this?” And start asking: “What does my nervous system think is happening right now?” Because your body doesn’t care about your intentions. It cares about what it has learned to expect. If chaos was normal → calm feels unfamiliar If pressure was constant → ease feels suspicious If you survived by staying alert → relaxing feels wrong So when you try to slow down or shift patterns, your system may interpret that as danger. Not because something is wrong with you. But because your nervous system is loyal to what kept you safe before. Gentle reflection❤️ 👉 What state do you return to because it feels familiar even if you’re tired of living there? One word or phrase is enough. That awareness is regulation. Drop a comment or just sit with that thought 🫶

Welcome to ADHDreamer. If you’re here, you’ve probably felt stuck before. You start strong, then fall off. You procrastinate. You feel behind. And eventually, you end up blaming yourself. I want you to hear this clearly: You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. Your brain just works differently not worse. I’m Steve. I’m a dad, and for years I worked 40+ hours a week while feeling overwhelmed, disorganised, and like I was missing out on my own life. I kept trying to force myself into systems that were never built for how my ADHD brain actually works. Nothing changed until I stopped trying to fix myself and started building systems that fit me. That’s why I created ADHDreamer. This is not a hustle space. This is not a productivity bootcamp. And you don’t need motivation to be here. This space is built for ADHD brains: - You don’t have to keep up - You don’t have to post - You can disappear and come back - Reading quietly still counts Progress here is non-linear and that’s allowed. We focus on: - reducing unnecessary pressure - building momentum without shame - designing life and work around your brain, not agains it If you want to, you can introduce yourself in the Start Here thread. No pressure but if it helps, you can answer: - one system you’re tired of forcing - one thing you want more freedom from That’s it. You don’t need to catch up. You don’t need to prove anything. Just land. Welcome to ADHDreamer.

A lot of dysregulation doesn’t come from stress, workload, or lack of discipline. It comes from comparison. Comparing your pace to someone else’s. Your capacity to their output. Your rhythm to their routine. When you measure yourself against other people with different nervous systems, priorities, and lives, your system goes into constant self-correction mode. That’s exhausting. You don’t need to think like everyone else. Work like everyone else. Or move through life the same way. Your creativity, insight, and depth come from being you not from mimicking someone else’s structure or success. Whether your ADHD or not, the moment you stop trying to match someone else’s pace, regulation becomes easier. Not because you did more… but because you stopped abandoning yourself. The work isn’t to become “better.” It’s to become more honest about who you are. And when you build from that place, everything feels more regulated. 💭 Reflection for today: Notice one place where you’re pushing to keep up… and ask, “What would this look like if it were built around me instead?” That question alone can change how your body responds. That awareness alone can bring relief.