I know I went quite for a while, but it was for a good reason. If you want to know the whole backstory about what's been going on, just ask me in the comments. For now, I think you'd get more value from tonight's scenario investigation. Tonight's scenario involves a mother, her two kids, and an UNO game on a train. Something happens between the kids and the mother's response raises an interesting question: When Does Tough Love Go Too Far? And there's a twist... Before the train reaches the next station, somebody's gonna have to make a choice they weren't ready for. Join us tonight at 9:30 PM Eastern https://youtube.com/live/8ncVeCjXIo4?feature=share Here's a question for you: How do you know if somebody is trying to make you stronger through tough love versus when they're taking it too far? Leave your thoughts in the comments. After the Youtube stream, we'll come back here to Skool and compare notes. I suspect you might change your mind from your initial thoughts 😎 See you soon, Devin

Disclaimer: I am not a mental health or medical professional. Sharing this for awareness and information purposes only. With the recent events taking place in Gary, Indiana, I feel it is important that we all have some level of awareness of how to engage. @Irene Huger is a professional, and I would love for you to weigh in on this. NIMH guidance on how children and teens react to disasters, violence, or serious accidents, and how caregivers can support them. Common reactions across all ages: Physical complaints (stomachaches, headaches), sleep problems/nightmares, trouble concentrating, loss of interest in usual activities, guilt, and thoughts of revenge. Age-specific reactions: Age 5 and under: clinginess, crying, tantrums, regression to bed-wetting/thumb-sucking, new fears (dark, monsters, being alone), reenacting the event through play Age 6 and up / teens: school problems, social withdrawal, avoidance of reminders, substance use, disruptive or destructive behavior, anger/resentment Most of these reactions are normal and fade with time. If symptoms persist beyond a month, it's time to involve a health care provider. How adults can help: Caregiver calm and stability directly shapes how kids cope, so adults should manage their own stress first. Do: Secure safety and basic needs Let them be sad, cry, talk, write, or draw about it Limit repetitive news exposure Allow temporary comfort measures (sleeping near you, light on) Maintain routines (meals, bedtime stories, games) Give small choices to restore a sense of control Watch for sudden shifts in behavior, speech, or emotion Seek care if flashbacks, racing heart, being easily startled, emotional numbness, or deep sadness persist beyond a few weeks Don't: Expect them to be "brave" or push them to talk before they're ready Get angry at strong emotions or regressive behaviors Make promises you can't guarantee ("You'll be fine tomorrow")

Back To School in The Ghetto, You Cant make this UP!!! https://youtu.be/FV1FyeuXCzg?si=6YdQUxPShAUh0TbL Back To School in The Ghetto, You Cant make this UP!!! Disclaimer: This is being shared for your awareness. No judgement. I feel a lot of us live in our own respective worlds and realities and in many cases, we never really go outside of it. To an extent, that is okay. However, sometimes we do not have a realistic impression of what is going on in the world around us. Hence, when I saw this, I was WOWED, I've seen things like this from time to time, however, I had no idea this would be something I would witness parents doing with their kids for their first day of back to school photos. Check it out and let me know your thoughts. And Devin, @Devin Trent thank you for the space. ❤️

Grayson was hypnotized by his favorite show. Suddenly, Mrs. Gray walks in and says, "cut the TV off. It's time to eat" She expected him to move immediately, especially since she made his favorite lasagna 😋 But he doesn't move immediately, so she tells him again "cut the TV off. I said it's time for dinner" The show is about to end in 5 minutes. So he stands up, but still lingers, trying to catch the last little bit. At first, Mrs. Gray thought he would come running to the kitchen with a big smile on his face. But when he didn't...she started feeling some type of way. A few minutes later, they both ended up frustrated as she returned demanding that he cut the TV off NOW! Can you relate to this scene? I've noticed that moments like these usually stem from expectations not being known ahead of time. I call this a Cue Gap™ The Cue Gap usually shows up during sudden transitions. So here's one practice to try: Set the expectation before the transition time. Timers can be good, but try building transitions around a rhythm your child already knows. Play time Work time Alone time Dinner time Whenever possible, let daily activities follow a predictable sequence. Of course some days will be different, but try to make most days the same. The important thing is that everybody knows what to expect and when to expect it. One predictable transition. One predictable expectation. Think about a transition that causes repeated reminders in your home. Does your child know what's expected ahead of time? Or does the transition start when you announce it? If you've ever been frustrated with reminding your child over and over again...the root cause might be a Cue Gap™ But that's only 1 of 4 patterns I've seen, that keeps parents stuck in an endless cycle of reminder loops. So I created a tool to help you uncover these hidden patterns before they get worse as your child grows. It's called The Responsibility Readiness Check. It's a 9 question assessment that takes about 3 minutes.

Tell me if this sounds familiar... A mother tells her son, "go pack your backpack" In her mind, that means: -Notebook inside -Lunchbox inside -Water bottle inside -Etc... But her son doesn't see the same picture in his head. So he puts his notebook inside the backpack, then wanders off to play again. A few minutes later, she sees the lunchbox and water bottle still sitting on the counter. She says, "I thought I told you to pack your backpack." He says, "I did" Now they're both standing there confused. Can you relate to this scene? I've noticed some parents lose patience in moments like this...thinking that kids are being lazy, disrespectful, or just not listening. But sometimes the real issue is that kids don't have the same expectations as their parents. I call this Finish Line Fog™. Finish Line Fog is when "done" looks obvious to the parent, but the idea of "done" is still not clear to the child. Kids can't consistently hit a target they don't clearly see. So here's one practice you can try today. Before your child starts a task, ask them: “What will it look like when this task is done?” Then help them name two or three visible signs. For example: “The toys are inside the basket.” “The books are back on the shelf.” “The floor is clear enough to walk across.” This practice gives you both the same clear picture and makes the finish-line look less foggy. --- Think about one responsibility in your home... Can your child clearly show you what done looks like, or does the complete picture still live inside your head? If you've ever been confused about why kids don't do what you asked them, then the root cause might be Finish Line Fog™ But that's only 1 of 4 patterns I've seen, that keeps parents confused and in an endless cycle of reminders. So I've created a tool to help you uncover these hidden patterns before they get worse as your child grows and responsibilities get bigger. It's called The Responsibility Readiness Check. It's a 9 question assessment that takes about 3 minutes.