One of the most freeing truths in Scripture is that “we are God’s workmanship … created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Parenting can feel like improvisation; we often second‑guess every decision. Ephesians 2:10 reminds us that our lives are not random. Your family, your personality, the gifts and limitations you carry, were all known to God. He has already mapped out the good things He wants you to walk in. Rather than striving to invent your purpose or to perfectly copy someone else’s parenting style, take a posture of discovery. Ask God what He has already prepared for your household. The pressure lifts when you realise that you don’t have to carve your own path alone; you just have to follow the one your heavenly Father has marked out. When your inner critic whispers that you’re making it up as you go, answer with faith: “I am discovering what God already designed for me and my children.”

I just got fussed out about this topic And I sat on it for a minute because I know this isn’t always a popular topic. But it needs to be said. There is no such thing as privacy in your house when it comes to your child. You pay the bills. You provide the phone. You provide the WiFi. You are responsible for their safety. So let’s make it make sense… Why does a child have more privacy than protection? Some of you are so worried about “trusting” your child… That you’ve stopped covering them. Meanwhile… They have access to Anything on the internet Group chats you know nothing about Conversations you’ve never seen Content their mind is not ready for And you’re just… letting it happen? Checking your child’s phone is not controlling. It’s parenting. You are not their friend. You are their protector. Because the world we live in today? It will expose your child to things FAST. Before you even realize it. And by the time you “find out”… it’s already in their mind. So no… There is no “don’t go through my phone.” There is no “that’s my privacy.” As long as they are under your roof… you have full access. Not to be messy. Not to be nosy.….. To be responsible. Because I promise you this… If something goes wrong… You won’t be saying “I’m glad I respected their privacy.” You’ll be wishing you paid attention. I had to learn this lesson the hard way.. Now I’m pray against things her friends introduced to her..

This is the exact system I’ve been using in my home for the past 3 years. And I’m telling you right now…it works. Not sometimes. Not when I feel like it. When it’s applied consistently it works. This is the system behind: ✔ why I don’t have to keep repeating myself ✔ why I don’t have to raise my voice ✔ why my children know I mean what I say ✔ why my follow-through is strong This system has also worked for 50+ parents I’ve shared it with. This system will not work if: ❌ you’re inconsistent ❌ you don’t follow through ❌ you give up when it gets hard Because the system isn’t magic.… YOUR consistency is what makes it work. So if you’re ready… CHANGE how your home operates. https://www.thejourneytofindgod.com/build-structure-now

Imagine you go to work every day… And your boss says: “I’ll pay you at the end of the day.” So Monday comes… no check.Tuesday comes… no check.Wednesday… you get HALF of Monday’s pay.Thursday… nothing.Friday… still nothing. Then they tell you: “Don’t worry, it’s coming next week.” At some point… You’re either: 1. Staying, hoping they get it together OR 2. Leaving because you no longer trust them Why? Because their words don’t match their actions. Now let’s bring it home. This is what we do to our children. We say: “Do that again and I’m taking the tablet.” They do it again… -nothing happens. “We’re going to spend time together.” We get tired… -and don’t. “We’re a praying family.” We pray Monday… -but not Tuesday. We tell them: “Believe in yourself.” But when we’re upset… -we talk down to them. So now your child is learning “They don’t really mean what they say.” And then we wonder why • they don’t listen the first time • they test everything • they don’t take us seriously You’re not just dealing with disobedience…you’re dealing with broken trust. Because authority is not built on what you say… it’s built on what you consistently DO. So let’s make it make sense If your words don’t hold weight…why would your child move when you speak?

You have 15 seconds to give your child an instruction. That’s it. Not a sermon. Not a TED Talk. Not your whole childhood story. 👉 15 seconds. Because after 15 seconds… you’ve lost them. You over there talking like: “Now I told you earlier when we were in the car that I don’t like when you—” Meanwhile your child is looking at you like: 👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀 They wondering: • why your breath smell like that• what that is on your tooth• why you got gray hair coming in• what they eating at school tomorrow• if they left their toy outside They are NOT listening. You are just… talking........... 😭 So here’s how it works: 🔥 Step 1: Say it in 15 seconds “Go clean your room.”“Pick that up.”“Stop hitting.” Clear. Direct. Done. 🔥 Step 2: Give them 15 seconds to repeat it back “What did I just say?” If they can’t repeat it… they didn’t process it.....START OVER 15 SECONDS ONLY 🔥 Step 3: Move No long lecture. No extra talking. ....... Action. Because let’s be real… A lot of times the lecture isn’t for them. It’s for us. We just talking to feel better 😭 But their brain doesn’t work like that. Especially with ADHD. They need: ✔ short✔ clear✔ direct✔ repeatable So today’s challenge: Try the 15 Second Race. And come back and tell me… Did it work, or did you catch yourself starting a whole sermon? 😂