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Intro - round 2
My name is Selah and I currently live in Washington state (USA). I’m working to find my way back to work after burning out from starting a COVID-motivated business without a plan. I have experience with this program: I completed the first three days during the last session, but I dropped the ball. I intended to pick it up right away, but instead, I kicked it into the woods and have been wandering around ever since, trying to navigate through the underbrush of distractions and doubts that have clouded my path. If I’m being honest, it wasn’t a one-time slip (or kick); it was a pattern. I started strong, felt the early momentum, and then let friction, resistance, and distraction take over. Instead of pausing and re-engaging, I checked out. And the longer I stayed out, the heavier it felt to return. I’ve been trying to embrace the reality that ā€œkicking the ball into the woodsā€ isn’t the end of the story unless I decide it is. The work isn’t lost; it’s just been unattended. The reps I did still count. The awareness I built is still there. I’ve spent enough time overanalyzing why I dropped the ball, and I’m refusing to allow the shame I felt for not finishing the first time to keep me from starting again. I’m walking back into the woods to pick the ball up and restart. Because the only way this program - and my life - works is if I keep showing up…and that part is still completely within my control. (I’ll probably bring these two senior pups into the woods with me to get the ball, and they’ll have a ball. šŸ˜‹ Jasmine (L) and Brody (R) will be celebrating their 15th and 13th birthdays on the 29th!)
Intro - round 2
What's your biggest struggle right now?
Challenge 1: ~500 people Challenge 2: ~3,500 people Challenge 3: ~6,400 people and climbing We are growing exponentially, and that's not for no reason. The challenge works. Thousands have already shifted how they live with their ADHD, and we're doing it again starting April 27. Before we kick off, I want to hear from you. šŸ‘‡ Vote below: what's your biggest ADHD struggle right now? šŸ’¬ Also drop it in the comments, other options are also welcome
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What's your biggest struggle right now?
3 likes • 7d
I’m going to try this again, and hopefully finish this time around. The content was great the first time…I learned that self-discovery can be overwhelming, and that I got scared.
Day One
I wasn't able to join at 3am my time šŸ˜… but I just watched the video and worked through the questions with the AI. It's got a lovely tone, incidentally. Very kind and encouraging. 🧠 Biggest insight: I struggle with moving forward with things that really matter to me because I internalised that perfection was a requirement for acceptance as a child, and I am personally responsible for foreseeing and mitigating every threat, including other people's feelings, reactions, and choices. It sounds ridiculous on the page, but you know what's more ridiculous? Putting the responsibility for regulating grown adults on a six year old child. āš”ļø My open loop is: cutting back aggressive large plants threatening to break my garden bed. šŸ’› One word for how I feel right now: Overwhelmed.
1 like • Mar 3
Thanks for sharing, Melinda. I’m glad you didn’t attempt to join at 3am. :) I can relate to the perfectionism - I can still hear my mother yelling out, ā€œwrong note!!ā€ From the other side of our large house While I practiced piano. I’m not sure whether she thought I was supposed to have perfected every piece before practicing, but I do know that her voice was in my head anytime I had to perform. Your insight about being personally responsible for foreseeing and mitigating every threat, feeling, reaction, and choice reminded me of something one of my eldest sisters shared with me/a group she participated in while doing some ā€œSoul Purposeā€ exploration. Because she’s the second oldest of eight kids and I’m the ā€œbaby,ā€ she developed a much stronger sense of maternal responsibility than I did… I only realized last year just how much that responsibility has weighed on her throughout her life. I will look back at my notes from our conversations because I remember her having a remarkable insight that resonated with you, but I can’t remember the exact language she used. Finally, you and I shared the same ā€œone word.ā€ :) We’re in it together!
0 likes • Mar 5
@Melinda Stanners Well done on refusing to take responsibility for someone else’s choices, and I’m glad that the other person owned the behavior and apologized. Hopefully that successful experience will make it easier to do in the future. I didn’t have a chance to look for the notebook(s?) I used when recording insights from my sister, but I will look tomorrow and report back. Again, I’m proud of you for holding your family member accountable for their own choice instead of accepting (or even tolerating) the blame!
Bathroom Renovation Win
In my introduction post, I shared an example of how I’ve been sitting on a bathroom renovation for a long while (I’ve got most of the supplies/materials and the time) but simply wasn’t taking action. Last week I found a good price on a stone slab for my new countertop, and the fabricator/installer turned it around so much faster than I anticipated, so I was forced to AT LEAST remove my old backsplash and countertop so he could install the new one. That compelled action. I had some frustrating discoveries yesterday so was discouraged by my lack of progress. After our video this morning (for me), I decided to work on the questions right away (but waited till evening to allow for further reflection). The last thing I ever want to do is remove tile from floors or walls, so I was tempted to not take action on the bathroom, but I decided to ā€œtake the pain upfront.ā€ As a result, I removed most of the floor tile and prepped to remove the window. There’s no turning back now! PS. The first picture is a great illustration of why removing tile is the last thing I ever want to do. :)
Bathroom Renovation Win
0 likes • Mar 4
@Karla Kotzer thank you!
1 like • Mar 5
@Laura Favand Thanks, and Indeed! Even if I started with what’s typically one of the last steps, it ended up being my ā€œStartā€ button. :)
Day 3 āœ… Done!
āš–ļø The belief that's been holding me back most: "This shouldn’t be this hard,ā€ paired with, ā€œI should be able to figure this out.ā€ šŸ“ Where it came from: I’m honestly not sure…but maybe being the youngest of eight kids and often feeling like I had to figure things out on my own. Or maybe because I was always told to ā€œlook it upā€ (in the encyclopedia/dictionary, etc) when I asked a question. ;-) ✨ My new code: "Ah, I’m in the friction phase,ā€ and ā€œSome parts of this are mine to solve. Some parts aren’t.ā€ šŸ”® My Future Self statement: "I am the kind of person who builds meaning(ful things) - carefully, correctly, and sustainably. šŸ’Ŗ Debugging in progress...
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Selah Helas
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Simplicity and persistence

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