(this is what I've learnt, and I'll be sharing the solution as well. Loved writing it btw) You’re grinding on Skool every day. Trying to get your engagement sky high. Sharing your own opinions in the comments. Reaching out to people in the DMs. In the DMs, there’s a point where conversation actually flows in a positive direction. And the other person wants to book a call with you. So you hop on a call... And after a while, the call ends. But the entire time, you both share complaints. How you’re not getting more clients. How your Skool community lacks engagement. How your outreaching but not seeing any progress. Having some reassurance that you’re not alone. Now I’m not against getting reassurance from calls every once in a while. But my point is…when we constantly seek reassurance. Our brain’s reward system activates. And it starts to receive a major hit of dopamine. And we get this accomplished feeling. As if we’re doing the right thing. And our brain starts to crave more calls just to take reassurance from others. And in the process, we’re not progressing in our goals. We’re only feeling like we are. And it becomes a total waste of time. “But, I find value with each call.” You give yourself this excuse, knowing well that nothing got done on that call. This is the situation of most people today. So, next time you’re on a call. Treat it like a mission. Instead of using the call to gain reassurance, use it to serve people. And help them with whatever value you can give to them. “But I know I can’t help them…” You say to yourself. But this is, again, a trick your brain plays with you. Because there’s always some value to share with others. There’s always something that you’ve learnt this week, which you can transfer to others. If not, then at the very least… There’s always your own journey, which you can share with others. How you lost weight and the lessons you learnt in the process. How you spent five years in sales and learnt about human nature more than any books.

I’ve seen so many people hop on group calls who stay quiet the entire time. “Oh, but I’m absorbing the information.” That’s the excuse they give. But deep down they don’t feel good enough to speak up… Especially when there’s someone with a higher status than them. They act like side characters you see in movies who’re forgotten right after the movie ends… And they’re literally closing the door that might contain all the things you want. And this has been going on for quite a lot of time for them. WITHOUT any change. This quote is true: Closed mouths don’t get fed. No wonder their business isn’t growing at the rate at which it should grow. So, what’s the solution for this? It’s a simple one. Speak up. Speak up even if it feels cringe. Speak up even if your heart starts pounding & your body starts to shake. Speak up even if your inner critic mocks you to the point where you can’t take it anymore. Speak up and get it done with. You’ll be surprised how difficult your mind made it to be when you held it back. “Oh, but I’m quietly absorbing the information.” Yes, you have to absorb all the information & even take notes. But not asking questions that might change your entire life…isn’t a smart move. All the millionaires & successful people have once been where you are right now. But the only difference was that they willingly stomped on that sneaky thing called ego. And they were willing to ask the questions that ended up changing their lives. Every student who grew up to be an influential mentor was a product of their questions. That's the secret to speedrunning your progress. And potentially speedrunning your bank account.

How much are you gonna run? From yourself. From your own words. From your commitments. You say you’ll do one thing… And instead of actually doing that very thing you promised to yourself… You see a notification, an email, a message from your friend, or simply another short-form content… And lo and behold, you’ve forgotten your commitments. And you lose yourself. Not only that, but you also lose the self-confidence that is needed to succeed in any task. You then sleep with immense pain & regret. And the guilty feeling eats you up. “I wish I hadn’t wasted time today.” “I wish I hadn’t put off that task that I wanted to do for the longest time.” “I wish I actually did something that made me proud instead of just doing random tasks.” But even with all of this misery…the cycle just repeats from the next day. As if it’s a never-ending loop. This is the trap I was stuck in for most of my life. I tried so many things to get out of it, but nothing seemed to work. No amount of journaling helped. Affirmations didn’t feel true at that time. Feeling sorry for myself didn’t help. Being angry at myself didn’t help either. Heck, even using those terrible feelings as a fuel didn’t work for me. Then I came up with the Ultimate Reset. And this…worked like a charm. And no, I’m not selling you any program called the Ultimate Reset. It’s just a method you can use for free when you’re stuck in a rut. In simpler words, start from zero. Let me explain… See, we’re fixated on completing a 15-item to-do list. And some of us are used to tackling multiple tasks/projects in a single day. But when you’ve spiralled into distractions and start to break one promise after the other… Your brain loses the ability to do any task…let alone finish 15 tasks. So what do you do instead? You simply put your ego to the side… And forget about all the progress you had made in the past. Even if you had a jam-packed routine and worked like a robot just a month ago. It doesn’t matter. Literally, start from zero.

Not going all in with your personal brand is the single biggest mistake you’re making. No wonder you’re not getting a lot of sales. “Oh, but I’m camera shy” “I have strong opinions… I would repel people.” “I know what to say but my head goes blank whenever I open the camera” “I’m making scripted videos..but I wanna make raw content, but I CAN’T” You’re letting that little piece of meat inside of your head (your brain) hold you back from making money. And you expect to get clients? I was so camera-shy that I didn’t even upload my own face as my personal Insta profile pic for years… 😨 I thought I was being “too out there”. But guess what? I had to change, even if it meant doing something I was scared to do my whole life. I knew that to get to where I wanna go, I needed to level up in a few areas. One of those included facing the camera. Because how could people expect to know about my expertise… If I can’t even portray my own self? Just when I made that change, in only 2 months, my camera shyness dissolved. People started bombarding me with positive comments. And leads started to flow in. And the best part about it is…that I don’t even have to fake it. Or pretend to be an extrovert who’s always brimming with energy… I can be as authentic as I can be, and my audience will accept me for who I am. If you’re camera-shy, it’s time you start taking action. Even if that means making 3 videos in closed doors. Even if that means keeping those 20-minute-long videos in your gallery forever. Because if you keep listening to your brain’s excuses… It will LITERALLY hold you back from getting clients. Which, in turn, will hold your income back in the long run. Now the choice is yours. Do you wanna remain camera shy, or do you want an increased bank account?

“Oh, but I’m networking. It’s good use of my time…” But look at what you did in those networking calls. You talked about what’s gonna happen in that new TV show that you both watched. You gave the spoilers to the upcoming chapter of that fiction book you both love. You talked & felt good about how many calls you hopped on that week. You talked about everything except for the thing that matters the most, your business. No wonder you’re not getting more sales lately. “But I did talk about my business when they asked me what I did…” Yeah, right…stay in your lil bubble. Remember, business is: money in. That’s it. Not networking or hopping on calls just to pass your time. Now I’m not saying don’t network. Networking is good, but only if you use it properly. Your goal in networking should be to provide as much value as you can. Your aim should be: “How can I help that person?” Be the doctor and diagnose that ‘patient’ who’s on the other end of the call. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen people just having a good time on these calls. Sure, have a good time. Have a good laugh. Life shouldn’t be dull. But don’t get distracted from your goals. Have a time set for casual chill calls with the people you enjoy talking to. But then have separate calls just to present value. Put all attention on that person. Shower them with value. And then pitch your offer if you believe that you can help them. But don’t hide behind the comfort of smiles & laughter just to avoid doing the work. Don’t use networking as a means of procrastination. If you’ve made this mistake in the past, don’t worry. Go through all of your contact list… And go through the people, who you’ve already had ‘fun’ with on previous calls. And now, hop on a value call with them. Keep the fun out on this short, action-packed call. And pour all the value out, without holding anything back. And see how much real progress you make in a few days. Because remember, with each value-based call…