Time is one of our most valuable assets. You can't beg, borrow or buy more, so use what you have wisely. Below is an Eisenhower Matrix where tasks are broken out into a 4 quadrant matrix of Urgency and Importance. Manage emergencies (Q1), limit distractions (Q3), avoid the Zombies (Q4) and spend as much time as possible planning and building relationships (Q2). If you intentionally spend time in Q2, you will likely feel better, be more productive and find you have built deeper and stronger connections.

I have been thinking a lot about an old high school friend of mine who was radicalized. His name was Ahmad Abu Samra. You can Google him and find his story. I knew Ahmad long before his trajectory took a very different path. We met when we were both in High School. We attended the same Mosque. We played sports. We did everything together. Then, somewhere between junior and senior year of high school, something changed. He began to spew radical ideologies. He dressed in traditional Islamic wear. Grew a beard. I knew someone or an organization got to him at the Mosque. I never liked attending this Mosque for that very reason. There were radicals who infiltrated the Mosque. Many discussions of radicalization focus on ideology first — slogans, manifestos, or the extremist content that people consume. What too often gets overlooked is how behavioral shifts are the earliest indicators — long before someone can be labeled “radicalized.” In Ahmad’s case, to those close to him, the shift wasn’t defined by a sudden sermon or a manifesto he shared online. It was a series of seemingly small yet consistent social behaviors — withdrawal from long-standing relationships, increasing emotional rigidity toward grievances, and an evolving sense of identity threat in response to global events that had little real impact on his everyday life. By the time his association with violent networks escalated — eventually leading him overseas and into organizational structures tied with ISIS propaganda and publication efforts — those who knew him had already seen the behavioral drift for years. This pattern is not unique. In my experience, whether in fieldwork or in reviewing cases of Western foreign fighters, the sequence matters: 🔹 Early behavior change (social isolation, grievance escalation) 🔹 Cognitive framing around perceived injustices 🔹 Affiliation with like-minded peers 🔹 Movement toward operational engagement. Too often, analysts and policymakers react at the ideological stage — after someone is already firmly embedded in extremist networks. If we want effective prevention, we must see the behavioral signals that precede that stage.

Welcome Yaya Bojang to Owen Army! One of the guys I've been mentoring from the Gambia Africa recently joined Owen Army. He is a huge fan of We Fight Monsters and the mission Ben & Jess set out to accomplish. Yaya wants to make a difference in his country for his people and his family. This is a good place to learn.

I’ve seen this loop more times than I can count. ➡️ Not on a whiteboard. ➡️ Not in a classroom. But in living rooms at 2 a.m., on the side of the road, in kitchens turned into crime scenes, and in the aftermath of choices people refuse to own. This image captures something policing teaches you very quickly: Every situation gives you two paths. 🔁 One is the Accountability Loop. 🔁 The other is the Victim Loop. In policing, we respond to the situation—the call for service. What happens next is rarely about lack of options. It’s about intention. I’ve stood across from people who: • ignored every warning • denied obvious facts • blamed everyone but themselves • rationalized harmful behavior • resisted help • hid behind excuses Not because they couldn’t choose differently—but because accountability is uncomfortable. ▪️The victim loop is seductive. ▪️It protects the ego. ▪️It removes responsibility. ▪️It gives people someone else to blame: the system, their upbringing, their partner, the economy, the police, society. And the longer someone stays in that loop, the harder it becomes to break free. The accountability loop is harder—but it’s the only one that leads anywhere worth going. It requires: • recognizing reality • owning your role • making a choice • taking action • learning from failure • self-examination • forgiveness (of self and others) I’ve watched people change their lives when they step into that loop. I’ve also watched people burn every bridge available because they refused to. This isn’t just policing. ‼️It’s leadership. ‼️It’s parenting. ‼️It’s relationships. ‼️It’s life. And if we’re honest, this image is also a mirror for society right now. We increasingly reward excuses, elevate victimhood, and treat accountability as cruelty instead of growth. We explain behavior away instead of confronting it. We externalize everything—then wonder why nothing changes. Policing doesn’t create this reality. It just encounters it earlier and more often than most.