7 emotions that are keeping you stuck (and how to deal with them)
Emotional control is a massive part of being a strong chess player. Just look at any top player in a match - they are always perfectly calm and focused. (ok not always, but most of the time) Understanding these 7 emotions will help you deal with losing games, big losing streaks, hitting plateaus, and feeling stuck. These negative emotions usually come from a story that we tell ourselves, or a limiting belief that we have. For example, if you lose a game it doesn't have to be a big deal. But if you tell yourself that you're a terrible player and will suck forever because you lost that game, then it becomes a problem. So here are the 7 emotions with the stories that we tell ourselves. You probably don't resonate with all of them, but there might be a few that you feel affect you. The way to combat them is to recognise the truth by reframing how you think about the feeling, and implement some action steps that I'm about to give you. Let's go 👇 ________________________________________________________________________________________________ 1️⃣ Frustration “I get stuck in long losing streaks, and I get frustrated about the lack of progress." Positive Reframe: "Ups and downs are part of the game. Losing streaks are temporary setbacks that can be overcome with persistence." Action steps: - Take breaks during high frustration periods - Zoom out into the bigger picture - losing streaks are part of the improvement process - Identify patterns or reasons for the losing streak ________________________________________________________________________________________________ 2️⃣ Self-doubt “Inherent limitations or inadequacies as a chess player will keep me stuck forever." - e.g. too old, don't have talent etc. Positive Reframe: "I have the ability to learn and improve with dedication and practice." Action steps: - Challenge negative self-talk - Seek guidance and feedback - Embrace a growth mindset ________________________________________________________________________________________________