@Rachel Otto You make a very good point. For some autistic children, the setting and sense of safety matter just as much as the timing. A child who feels calm and secure is much more available for learning. Do you think the school year or summer tends to work better for that?

I didn't homeschool my kids but there's been a huge jump in U.S. K-12 students being homeschooled in the last few years. A 2.8% increase 2018-2019 but a 4.9% increase 2024-2025. Eighty percent of reporting states are hitting record highs with homeschoolers. -Pew Research Center Before making a big jump to homeschooling, it may be worth asking the teacher to expand a little on what she means by not understanding him. That could open the door to a really helpful conversation about what makes your grandson tick—what keeps him engaged, what frustrates him, and how he learns best. She may have been asking because she wants insight so she can connect with him better. If you’d be the one homeschooling, I’d also just think about whether that would be a good long-term fit for both of you day to day.

@Rachel Otto I'm sorry he has not been included. That must feel terrible. It sounds like you know in your heart what to do.