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Relationship You Deserve ICF Certified Coach - TASKING
This post is ONLY for those currently on the Relationship You Deserve ICF Certified Coach Journey Anything you need, we are here for you. This post is to help you track your journey. Ask any questions that you need help with. Use this same post so it's easier for us to help you. Tasking is the pinned post in the updated each week
3 likes • 20h
Week 16 Emotional decharge overview: - An emotional decharge walks the client through a process to identify the origin of a strong emotion, reduce the intensity by identifying a positive learning from the original event, and choose a healthier response in the future Emotional decharge breakdown: - Identify the emotion they would like to let go of - Ask if they are willing to let go of that emotion - Ask them to float back to the earliest memory they have of the emotion - Ask them to float above the event and identify a positive learning that will help them let go of the emotion - Ask them to float back before they experienced the emotion and notice the absence of the emotion - Ask them to float back to the original event and notice how it feels different - Repeat steps 3-5 as necessary - Ask them to imagine a future situation that would normally evoke the emotion and notice how they feel and act differently - Ask them to come back into the present and check in on the emotion
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@Soojin Jun I like how you brought God into #3. I was working with a client last week and he was struggling with identifying a positive learning so I asked him to think about it from the perspective of a father and what he would have wanted for his son to learn in this situation.
Gardening and Relationships
I was talking with one of my clients this morning who's on the verge of giving up. He and his wife have been separated for several months now and while he's working really hard on himself and the relationship, he's not seeing the results he desperately wants. He's frustrated and worries he's just wasting his time. It reminds me of gardening. Let me explain... I like growing my own vegetables. They are so much better than store-bought and there's pride that comes with eating food that you worked hard to grow. To make it more difficult, I don't just go to the store and buy plants, I start mine from seeds. And not just seeds that you buy at the store, I buy mine online after doing extensive research on which variety would do the best in our area. Once I have the seeds, I wait for the perfect timing because I want the plants to be ready to put in the ground right after the last frost. Then I prepare my seed-starter soil and plant the seeds. Each seed can take 2-3 weeks before showing any signs that they are germinating. During that time, I have to keep them at the right temperature and soil moisture level or they won't sprout. When they finally sprout, I can breathe a little easier knowing that we've at least begun the process, but we still have a long way to go. At this point, the plants are very fragile and must be carefully taken care of to ensure they are getting the right amount of light, water, and nutrients. Not enough or too much water, light, or nutrients for even a few hours can cause the seedlings to die. This lasts for several weeks while I prepare the garden soil and wait for just the right time to put them in the ground. When I finally get them in the ground, there are a couple of weeks where they need extra attention while their root systems get established. They are finally at a place where I don't have to watch them as closely because they are stronger and can better withstand fluctuations in water, temperature, and nutrients. But we're not done yet... it still takes several weeks before you see flowers and eventually tomatoes.
Gardening and Relationships
3 likes • Sep 20
@Janet Masingill Thanks! The other scripture that comes to mind is Galatians 6:9 "And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up."
0 likes • Sep 23
@Stephenie Mosher Thanks, it's a powerful analogy that has been helpful for me during times of uncertainty. There are many times where things are outside our control. We can do everything within our control (prepare the soil, plant the seeds, water, fertilize, etc.), but we don't have ultimate control over whether or not the seed sprouts. However, we are guaranteed not to get any sprouts if we don't plan the seed.
Welcome to The Relationship You Deserve Community
(Please take 1 min to read this entire post) This is a community for people who are committed to creating the relationships they truly deserve. For more than a decade, we’ve supported thousands in ✨ Healing past negative relationship patterns, ✨ Learning how to stop arguing and avoid conflict ✨ How to fulfil yours and your partner's needs. And now we’re here to help you do the same. ❤️ It doesn't matter if you are single ❤️❤️ or in a relationship 💕It doesn't matter what kind of relationship you want (It's not gender specfic) Whether you're looking to: ✨ Attract a new partner ✨ Fix your current relationship ✨ Heal your relationship with yourself ✨ Guide others into the Relationship They Deserve... As a new member, get ready for trainings and conversations on topics like: 💫 How To Heal Toxic Patterns 💫 How To Become A Secure Attachment 💫 How To Handle Conflict And Set Boundaries 💫 How to fulfil your and your partner’s needs… ...and so much more! Here's how to get the most out of this community… ✅ STEP #1) Introduce yourself and your relationship Challenge? Share who you are and what your biggest challenge is at the moment in your relationships? ✅ STEP #2) Download " The 3 Problems Stopping You From Getting The Relationship You Deserve & How To Fix IT HERE: Inside, you will find the exact steps that you need to fix your relationship patterns and get the relationship you deserve. Click here to download the guide now ✅ STEP #3) Access Your FREE Relationship Training Here: We work with our community incredibly personally to help them get the relationship they deserve. Start watching the training and taking the first steps to getting the relationship you deserve with our support: https://www.skool.com/the-relationship-you-deserve/classroom We’re super pumped to serve you. As always, no matter what happens Never give up on your dreams.
7 likes • Aug 8
@Casey Kosina I'm happy to hear that the two of you are working on healing so that you won't repeat old patterns. You're in a good place to learn what you need to grow your relationship into the best thing it can be. 😊
3 likes • Aug 9
@Maria Victoria Cabalu Hello, great to meet you on here!
Wow this couldn't be better timed
I am having issues in my relationship, I took to blaming my partner for everything. However, today (and I havnt started this course yet) I reflected a lot on everything and found the core issue and will be talking it through with my partner tonight. Am so excited to get my teeth stick in here as well as the expert coach course. Am so greatful to be here.
1 like • Aug 8
@Lizzie Pi it all starts with awareness and taking responsibility. Great job taking those first steps! Keep the momentum going...
Is love enough?
I was thinking about this while practicing the piano the other day and it’s actually quite simple in my view… Sorry to break it to all you hopeless romantics but love alone is not enough to maintain a beautiful relationship :-( If love was enough, everyone who ever fell in love would be happily in their relationships forever after, right? But that's not the case. So if love isn’t enough then what else do you need? Well… You need the tools and skills. You see, a relationship is like a piano. You don’t play something beautiful on the piano just because you love music. You play something beautiful because you show up to the keys every day. Because you understand rhythm. Because you keep going, even when you hit the wrong notes. Because you tune it when it's out of harmony. Because you practice everyday, even when you're tired and you don't feel like it. Love is what you put in, but it’s not the piano. What tune are you getting in your relationship? That will depend on your ability to care… On your ability to communicate… On your ability to repair… On your ability to navigate conflict effectively… On your ability to stay present when you'd rather avoid And on your ability to heal your childhood wounds so they don't pollute the relationship. It's complex. It requires a lot of skill. And a beautiful relationship only happens when you are willing to show up consistently and are willing to sharpen your skills. Which is why I’m glad you’re here. Relationships takes effort and consistency, and if you get lazy, you will keep hitting bum notes and the music will sound terrible. What are your thoughts?
Is love enough?
9 likes • Aug 7
As I've transitioned to relationship coaching over the past several weeks, I've talked with several men who have found themselves caught off guard that the flame of their relationship has gone out. They thought everything was fine until their partner came to them and said that they were no longer in love with them. Many of them have taken a passive approach to the relationship and never learned how to navigate conflict well or how to love their partner in the way they need. Their partner eventually grew tired of bringing things up that never got resolved so they just stopped bringing them up until resentment and contempt overshadowed the love. The analogy I use, that resonates well with my male clients, is that the relationship is like a car. If you don't do the work to maintain your car, it will fall apart and eventually not work anymore. If you wait until the engine is seized to change the oil, it's too late. You have to follow a regular maintenance schedule if you want your car to last. It's a lot cheaper to have an oil change than it is to rebuild an engine. Unfortunately a lot of them wait until the engine needs to be rebuilt. Love is the spark, but you have to continue feeding the fire or the flame will go out.
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