What actually makes sex feel good? What needs to happen for you to say: “Yes. That was good sex.” Is it about pleasure? Connection? Technique? Power? Laughter? Or something else...? What’s your personal indicator of great sex? What needs to be there — and what instantly ruins it?

A few years ago I stopped taking male clients. The reason was simple: repeatedly, instead of professional requests I received sexualized messages and boundary-crossing propositions. About 70% of incoming “requests” are sexual in nature, not therapeutic. So let me be crystal clear: If you are here to fantasize, flirt, or seek intimacy with a therapist - leave now. I will not tolerate it Nor waste my time. Maybe you wonder Why they do it? • Confusion of care and sexuality — some men cannot separate being cared for from being a sexual opportunity. • Erotic transference acted out — instead of reflecting on projections, they act on them. • Objectification — female professionals are reduced to sexual objects rather than respected for their expertise. • Avoidance through fantasy — turning therapy into a sexual outlet to escape real vulnerability and shame. And yes — online anonymity lowers inhibition, but many men behave this way offline too. The pattern is real. ‼️ If you’re here to project fantasies — you’re not ready for therapy and you don’t belong in this community.‼️ ‼️ Community note: If you receive similar messages — screenshot, block, report, and DM me. We will document and act. This space is a professional, boundaried container. Respect it or leave. I also know that most people on Skool are different. You’re here to grow, to exchange ideas, to support each other, not to cross boundaries. That’s why I chose this platform, I believe in creating a space where conversations are real, respectful, and transformative. And I’m grateful to everyone who’s part of that. ❤️

It’s been a while since I last showed up here. And I would like to be honest I had to pause this project because I simply couldn’t handle everything. The intensity of life, the emotional rollercoasters, the other projects, the travels, the paperwork… it was a lot. But now I’m back — grounded, energized, and ready to reconnect with you and this beautiful space. Since last summer, so much has happened.I’ve lived in Colombia, Mexico, Switzerland, Jordan, France, Italy, Turkey… and now I’ve landed in Spain. I’ve started and ended a relationship, worked on different projects, and went through a deep process of personal and professional growth. I missed this community. I missed the warmth, the honesty, the space to talk about what really matters. And I’d love to hear from you: ✨ What’s been on your mind lately? ✨ What would you love to explore here together? DMs are always open if you want to share privately 💌 And to start this new chapter, I’m starting with a topic that feels so personal: Mental power and burnout. Because sometimes our own strength can turn against us. But more on that… in the next post. With love from Spain, Irina 🥂