Using the word yet... If you are one of the many millions of us who has that inner voice. You know the one, it's says you can't do this, you won't be able to to that... Simply adding the word YET onto the end of it's sentence is a very quick way to change the meaning and start a reframe. To go one better add - You won't be able to do that....then add the 'yet' and, 'but that is fine I am learning'. It's a game changer! Reframing is just one subject covered in full in the Rider Mind Mastery Programme.

I am not confident about hacking solo as our roads are single lanes and my fear is something going wrong and I fall or Nancy takes off. This morning I was hacking up to the ménage (about 100-150m) and a van was coming towards us, about 50 yards away. I put my arm out to indicate I was going into a driveway and we walked calmly in and turned ready for the van to come past. There is a large hedge which obstructed our vision but the driver had seen turn in so he’d come past slowly… wouldn’t he?? No…. I heard him put his foot down and the water lying on the side of the road we could hear slashing 😩 Suddenly he appeared in a shower of water at speed. Nancy shot forward in front of him heading back to her stable!!! I talked to her and managed to stop… the van driver had stopped immediately. My initial reaction was to get off but I then decided to put her up on a wide grass verge and turned to face the van. The driver then, very slowly drove past followed by a 2nd van who was so close to him I hadn’t noticed it. We then continued to walk up the road to the ménage and have a lovely schooling session before riding back to Nancy’s stable. I feel very proud of us successfully dealing with one of my biggest fears 😁

Unfortunately my patner passed away last night, bloody cancer, so i am giving myself a break for a month, then starting back with my horses.

Let’s celebrate our wins of the week (including last weekend) please share your wins in life, no matter how big or small…🤩

I am currently studying for the NPL Master Qualification. It’s on a whole different level to the Practitioner, I have been learning lots. Last week we were studying Meta Programs and how we process things. I have long considered myself to be a bit Nero spicey. My kids came to me years ago with the "we are ADHD and we got it from you!" Apparently, it’s hereditary! When they presented their evidence, I had to agree that had me bang to rights. Yes, I do set out to weed the flower border and then find I am pruning a tree on the other side of the garden. Or I am going to clean and tide the lounge, only to find somehow, I have ended up scrubbing the toilet. Yes, I do struggle to stay on task! So last week I had a co-working session with good friend and buddy @Gemma Coles. I told her I needed to be more focus at work and that I jump from one thing to another and find I have fifteen tabs open at once! Anyone else do this??? She taught me about time blocking. I know she does this easily, I have always admired this trat of hers. So, I bought a new diary (Steven Bartletts 1% Diary, which is awesome!) and set about mastering this new time blocking skill. So back to the NLP and last week’s learnings, yep, a spicy switch! The basic meta programmes align with the four major elements of NLP. The major elements of NLP are the persons: External behaviour – is what they do. Internal process – how they do it. Internal State - determines why somebody does something. What if over time - answers the question, what would happen if they did. Still with me? Now each of these basic meta programmes isn’t a dichotomy; there is a continuum from two extremes. With meta programmes, we ask one question, and then we use our own subjectivity to determine where the person is on the continuum from their answers. The questions are designed to take somebody out to the extreme. Here is where it gets interesting, as I started to read and digest this subject I knew exactly where I sat. Ask yourself these questions, there is no right or wrong answer.