that it`s possible to give someone too much in a good way? Can you give someone too much love, kindness, attention, little gifts etc? Obviously without overstepping boundaries, note respecting personal space etc. Can too much love (in the most healthiest way) really hurt? I would really value your prescpectives on this

I don’t talk about this often, but I’ve had several abusive, toxic relationships. Five times I thought this one will be different. Five times I ignored the knot in my stomach. Five times I shrank myself so someone else could feel big. For years, I thought it was them. And yes—what they did was real. Nothing was good enough; the worst relationship was 20 years ago. He was overly nice and fun at first, but he got mean as time went on. Sometimes as I looked out the window while he drove, he accused me of looking at other men; also, he demanded me to stop seeing my mother and my friends; also he tried to keep my children away from me. This lasted 2.5 years, and I left him and went back to him 4 times. The truth that changed my life was this: I was choosing familiar pain because I didn’t believe I deserved anything better. I finally went to a counselor who helped me see it was abuse and not my fault, except for continuing to choose this pattern . So I finally left him and lived in a women’s shelter as. I pulled myself together by sitting with myself, being silent, and turning off the chatter in my mind, finally believing that i deserved better Has anyone had a similar situation?