My Mother’s Behavior Hi! My mother is a narcissistic, borderline, manic bipolar, depressive. Sadly, this caused my siblings and me (especially me) a much harder life. She was officially diagnosed with dementia/Alzheimer’s almost two years ago. What I’ve noticed is that she is, what I call, my “old mother” when she first wakes up; not very nice, not motherly, etc. After a while, she becomes my “dementia mother.” That’s when she almost becomes my child. She starts the day as her old self, and increasingly becomes more and more dementia oriented as the day/night goes on.