Jocelyn's Thursday Thought
Right before I left for vacation, I coached a client that told me she was annoyed and angry because of what someone did. She had a compelling story. She was justified in her feelings. She said she wanted to feel angry and annoyed, and I said, "Great....that's fine... do it." But I also pointed out to her that she is the creator and owner of those feelings, not the man in her story. I wanted to empower her with this knowledge. I didn't want her to give her authority to this guy. As she spoke further, she explained in response to her annoyance she's been sneaking around, being somewhat deceitful, and thinking about what a jerk he is. And I showed her what she is creating for herself. When she makes this guy a mean giant, she behaves like a scared teenager. Not the strong, confident, amazing woman that she is. I pointed out that if she did want to see it differently, it wouldn't be to reward this man, it would be to empower herself. She agreed. We worked through it. She is not annoyed or angry any longer. She is also not justifying or agreeing with his behavior, she's just choosing to be who she wants regardless. She's confident and open. She's the master of her life experience. So are you, my friend. Really good news. Have a beautiful week! I love you all, @Jocelyn Ives