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Working through the Seeker stage
And Andrew asks me to comment on which of the long lists have I seen or felt in my own life... Okay then, here goes: How I Feel 1. Anxious (maybe sometimes? I think this is one of the emotions I feel more often than I realize I feel it.) 2. Depressed (definitely not as often as I once did) 3. Exhausted (THIS) 4. Overwhelmed (THIS) 5. Angry (not so much) 6. Frustrated (THIS) 7. Irritable (I mean... if you put it that way... maybe) How I Show Up 1. People pleasing (maybe mildly) 2. Self Sabotage (THIS) 3. Procrastination (THIS, but I'll get to it later) 4. Perfectionism (not so much?) 5. High Achiever (Ha, wrong guy) 6. Mr Nice Guy (maybe mildly) 7. Obsessive (OCD) (I don't think so...) What I Think 1. Harsh inner critic (sometimes) 2. I am not good enough (oof, THIS one hurts) 3. I need to make others happy to be loved (I definitely don't like it when others aren't happy... well, certain others) 4. The world is not safe (not so much) 5. I need to be strong to get attention (hmm, maybe) 6. If I am myself I will be rejected (not so much) 7. I only get love when I succeed (I don't think so) How My Life Looks 1. I lack connection in my relationships (Well, I'd like more connection...) 2. I'm not sure who I am (sometimes THIS) 3. My job is a means to an end with little purpose (not this one) 4. I use drugs/alcohol/sex/gambling/shopping/working/the gym as a coping mechanism (I don't think so) 5. Outside everything looks in control but inside I am drowning (I don't think it looks in control!) 6. I am always worrying about what the future holds (not so much) 7. I live mostly in my head and struggle to feel my emotions (THIS)
2 likes • Feb 15
Thanks, Ben. I am looking forward to learning and practicing the process of finding, acknowledging, releasing, and repeating.
First Podcast Guest - Nick Valdovinos
https://youtu.be/mcSozACngYw What’s up everyone!! Big moment in the arc of The Lighthouse Project. We launched the True North podcast, and episode 3 is our first guest conversation with Nick Valdovinos, one of the guides here. Nick’s been through it and has a lot to share about his experience. In this episode, Nick talks about: - being labeled depressed and what that did to how he saw himself - being prescribed medication without any discussion about his childhood - doing therapy, group therapy, and being hospitalized, and why none of it worked for him - what it felt like being numbed out on meds - realizing he had settled in work and how that showed up at home - noticing real changes in how he shows up with his wife and son - speaking directly to his younger self and creating safety around emotion The full episode launched today. Shorter videos will be dropped later this week. Give them a listen!
3 likes • Feb 9
I look forward to getting to watch this episode sometime this week. Looking at the calendar to make it a priority.
Introduce Yourself (All Intros Here Please!)
Our community works better when we know who we’re walking with. If you’re new or you’ve been here a while but quiet post a quick intro below. Who you are, where you’re at, and what brought you here. Most men don't reach out for help, this is a small but significant step in announcing you are ready for The Work.
5 likes • Jan 26
Comrades, I'm taking a deep breath and... here I go. My name is Lee Eddy. I'm 53, husband of almost 26 years (in a row!) to one wife. We have four children (25F, 23M, 22F, 18M) and recently became empty nesters. We also have a dog (terrier mutt) and a cat who covet our attention. I've been a public school teacher for some twenty years--nearly all of it in a middle school setting (ages 10ish to 13ish) and nearly all of it teaching History, specifically American History. I've also become very involved in our local Teachers Union, representing some 600 employees in our growing school district. We live in southern California in the United States, in a region audaciously known as the Inland Empire. I was brought to The Lighthouse Project by Ryan Pinto--whom I know as either Frijole or Nanta'n. I am at the point in my life where I want to--need to--level up. I was the kid who always had the "not living up to his potential" comment on his report cards. And I'm still kinda there. And I don't want to be there. So I am here. I want to find out the fears, the shame, the despair that is holding me back from... being me, fully me. I've always been a good wordsmith, talking or writing. But I've never quite been the action guy. I want to deliver on what I say. I want to say what I mean--and then deliver on it. I'm about to take a forward step in my professional life by becoming President of our local Teachers Union and I don't want to drop that particular ball--I want to do some great things in that position. My wife and I are empty nesters and though we will always be parents, it is time for us to focus also on one another. I have long took her for granted and I don't want to do that, either. Also, I am just starting to sometimes think that when people say I'm a good guy... they might at least be partly right. So I want to get to know myself more deeply. I want to use my gifts in a way that brings good things into existence and helps people. I've been working on my physical fitness the last year or two and have levelled up a fair bit in that area. It's time for me to work on mental and emotional fitness.
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Middle School Teacher, Husband of One, Father of Four, Union VP, F3 Dexter, Southern California, Record Collector, Attempted Stoic, Christian Atheist

Active 14d ago
Joined Jan 17, 2026
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