I used to overgive to those around me… My time, my energy, “helping people” etc I would rationalize it even when it meant abandoning myself Examples of this in my life including holding space for people at the expense of my own energy, overgiving with my time with tolerating people who were draining and even overgiving with what I share on Youtube and social media For years I believed I had to create daily content to GIVE myself to those that watched me At the core of this giving was a subconscious pattern I was failing to see… That pattern was the belief that “IF I overgive… people won't leave me” If I make daily videos on Youtube people will value me, if I abandon myself to hold space for people then they will appreciate me… etc It’s rooted in a wound of codependency Having a controlling step mom as a kid had conditioned me to associate connection and acceptance what what I could provide and DO for others Even if that meant abandoning ME Because as a kid… my feelings did not matter To survive I had to tune to an emotionally chaotic person and anticipate their every move To break this pattern I had to first become aware of the pattern I had to catch myself and question WHY am I doing this? What am I avoiding by staying in this pattern? And am I responsible for other peoples emotions? What if when I felt the urge to overgive… I caught myself and tapped into my body first? What is motivating this urge? Wanting approval? Validation? To be needed? Are there really no strings attached to this or do I want something from the person I am overgiving to? Here are 3 ways I broke the pattern 1. I let go of normalizing nonreciprocal relationships and created balance Relationships that weren't balanced where I would GIVE at the expense of myself… I had to take ownership of this patterns and instead of BLAMING them… I had to acknowledge that people treat me the way I treat me and the way I tolerate This meant having conscious conversations with people and sharing how I felt with the intentions of a new way of relating that felt good

Did you ever think why New Years resolutions fail? We follow beliefs of others, that it is an expectation you do resolutions.We feel pressure to do resolutions to fit in. When you look at nature most new beginnings happen in spring. That is the time of new birth, planting the seeds, babies, trees getting leaves, etc. For some reason as humans, we have adapted a belief to change in winter when we go within to learn. Sometimes all we need to change is to go for a walk and to see what we need to consider.

#MySacredSpace

Hi everyone! I just wanted to express my gratitude for this group. I live alone in the middle of nowhere and I don’t use social media, it’s winter right now so I spend most of my time inside and alone. There are days where I feel very lonely out here, when I get caught in those feelings I meditate and reconnect with myself which helps tremendously, but I’m also super grateful that this platform exists where we can all connect with likeminded people who are making an effort to expand and grow. I could go on, but I’ll keep this brief. Life is good even in the tough times. Just wanted to send some love and express my gratitude💜

Your first homework assignment is to set an intention! the course is officially unlocked and you can find it in the "classroom" section! Setting an intention is a powerful way to kickstart the process of transformation share what is your name, where do you live and do you want to receive/experience from high Vibe 101? you can also declare something you intend to let go of Comment below and set the frame!