What’s the #1 area of your life you’re trying to improve this year? Fitness, career, or relationships/dating?

Seriously, I was out tonight with a group of people and I pulled out my phone and held it up and everyone jumped into the picture. Everyone loved it and that moment made it into an instagram story with a local influencer. Suspend the disbelief especially when it feels stupid at first.

Hi, I’m Santosh. I live in NYC right now and moved here after working a crappy job in PA for a few years post college. I came across Michael Sartains podcasts and subsequently discovered the Men of Action group. I wanted to join this community for two reasons: 1. I don’t know what I want to do career wise and am looking for ideas on that front. 2. I know that I am interested in two things: building a social circle here in NYC and making more money. All the other steps in this journey are still up in the air for me right now.

Something I’ve been catching myself on lately is over-explaining, especially in situations where brevity would’ve been enough. Extra context. Extra justification. Extra words. It all lowers your status. Most of the time, nothing actually needs defending. Where have you noticed over-explaining costing you time, energy, or leverage? And what’s helped you dial it back?

My high school football teammate interviews me 30 years later.