How to Cultivate More Trust With Yourself
Self-trust isn’t built through motivation or positive thinking. It’s built through evidence. Every time you do what you said you would do, even in small ways, you deposit trust into the relationship you have with yourself. Every time you don’t, you withdraw from it. Here’s a simple, repeatable way to strengthen that trust. FRAMEWORK: Step 1: Make smaller promises Most people break trust with themselves by overcommitting. Stop setting goals that require heroic effort. Set commitments you can keep even on your worst days. Small promises kept consistently beat big promises broken occasionally. Step 2: Decide in advance Remove decision-making from the moment. Decide ahead of time what you will do, when you will do it, and for how long. Clarity eliminates negotiation. Negotiation is where trust breaks. Step 3: Keep the standard visible Write your commitment down. Put it somewhere you see daily. If it’s not visible, it’s optional. If it’s visible, it becomes a standard. Step 4: Do it even when it doesn’t matter Trust is built fastest when no one is watching and the outcome feels insignificant. Showing up on low-stakes days trains your nervous system to believe you can be relied on. Step 5: Close the loop When you complete the action, acknowledge it. Not with hype. Just recognition. A quiet “I did what I said I would do” is enough. This is how confidence becomes earned instead of imagined. One Action for Today: Pick one small commitment you can complete in under 10 minutes. Decide the exact time you’ll do it. Do it. Then stop. Don’t add more. Stack trust first.