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The problem isn’t always with our children.

Grief doesn’t make you weak—it means you’re human. And here’s the truth: the only way to heal it is to move through it.

When parents are anxiously desperate for connection with their kids, they can unintentionally push them away. The problem isn’t their motives. The problem likely isn’t their language. The problem likely isn’t the actions they take to try and connect. The problem is often the emotional energy in those words and actions. The anxious desperation in their voice. Too many parents mistake this anxious desperation for hope and wonder why their kids seem to grow more distant in their hearts. It as if the harder they push in the further they push their kids away. Like a forcefield around us that won’t allow us to get what we are trying so hard for. Hope is not anxious, it’s confident. Hope isn’t desperation, it expectancy…of good things. Good things from God. Summer did the work to change her emotional energy towards her estranged kids, she moved from anxious desperation to true hope. And before she knew it, her expectation was met and her kids returned. Summer took my course called The Emotionally Whole Family where she learned how to do this, and the course starts again in a few days. Get details and sign up here!

Thank you for the “warning” video and the strategy to compartmentalize. I have definitely felt all sorts of emotions stirring. Also got the book … one of those “where has this been my whole life?” books. Six chapters in and so helpful … and also pot stirring. 😅