How we choose to perceive things.

Once the Lord has told us something, anything after that is usually just us negotiating with fear.

Hi friends, Lately, a lot has been coming to light in the charismatic church — especially regarding Bethel Church, where I served on staff for 10 years. As a result, many people are experiencing conflicting emotions. This includes those who attended or were students at Bethel, as well as people who never trusted it in the first place. There’s relief that these things are finally being exposed, but also fear about how it will all unfold, along with anger, shame, regret, and more. These conflicting emotions are a natural response to such a massive change. I’ve pointed out that this is the very definition of grief — and right now, many believers (myself included) are walking through it. Thankfully, I know how to navigate this well. I’ve not only resolved my own grief related to the church, its leaders, and other Christians, but I’ve also helped many others do the same. If grief isn’t processed properly, it can lead to painful and even damaging repercussions in our lives.That’s why Sandi Derby (trainer with the Grief Recovery Institute) and I are hosting a 2½-day intensive on recovering from grief. We’ve already recorded the first half-day, which covers the important educational foundation for resolving grief. The rest of the intensive will be live on Zoom, May 2–3, 2026.These intensives normally cost $997 for the weekend, but we’re offering this one on a sliding scale, starting at just $100, so we can serve as many believers as possible who have been impacted by recent events.If you’d like to watch the first half-day (the recorded portion), you can find it here in Skool: https://www.skool.com/the-emotionally-whole-family/classroom/37abe4b4?md=99592c7386b44e9893cb0b21a13ac4d8 Once you’ve watched it, if you’d like to join us for the live portion on May 2–3, just send me a message here in Skool and I’ll get you all the details. We’re praying and partnering with God to help believers process these emotions and navigate this difficult season with health and wholeness.

One important but often missing piece when it comes to guarding our hearts is finding/creating relationships in which our hearts are not on guard. Hearts can get hardened when they never have a place to take off their armor.

Do you agree or disagree with the thought that some of the pain we parents cause our children is due to the unresolved pain we still carry from our own childhoods?