What a humbling honor to be featured and quoted by The Mirror as an expert on ambiguous grief in relation to the Savannah Guthrie case. To be trusted to speak into something this complex—where the pain lives in the uncertainty, the unanswered, the unfinished—means more than I can fully put into words. My hope is that this sheds light for those navigating the confusion and weight of not having clear answers, and offers even a small sense of understanding in the middle of something so brutal. https://www.themirror.com/entertainment/savannah-guthrie-ambiguous-loss-grief-1764507

Describe your Grief in One Word

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Hey everyone — welcome. I’m really glad you’re here. I’m only a few days into Skool myself, so we’re building this space together — not arriving at something polished. And that matters, because grief rarely shows up neat or finished. This community is different from my TikTok for one reason: TikTok is for awakening. This space is for integration. Here are a few grief truths I want to offer as you settle in — things I don’t usually share publicly: 1. Grief doesn’t need to be pushed out or bottled up — it needs to be held Healing doesn’t come from constant release. It comes from learning how to let grief be present without it overwhelming you. That’s not suppression. That’s capacity. 2. If grief gets louder at night, nothing is wrong Night removes distraction. Your nervous system finally has room to feel. This isn’t regression — it’s your body asking for gentleness, not fixing. 3. Healing isn’t closure — it’s authorship Most people stay stuck reacting to loss. Healing begins when the question shifts from: “Why did this happen?” to: “Who am I becoming in response to this?” That shift changes how grief lives inside you. 4. You don’t need to be strong — you need support Strength exhausts people. Support stabilizes people. This space is about building: - emotional steadiness - language for what you’re experiencing - internal safety - meaning that doesn’t erase love or pain A gentle invitation You don’t need to share your whole story. If you want, introduce yourself with one sentence: “Right now, grief feels like ______.” No fixing. No advice. Just being witnessed. I’m really glad you’re here. We’ll move at a human pace. — Toni