My Homework Week 1 Tasking Trauma Assignment Cause and Effect in My Life This Week This week, I noticed cause and effect showing up in a few ways: - When I felt stressed and skipped a proper meal (cause), I noticed my mood drop and I became more irritable (effect). - Choosing to pause and take a short walk outside (cause) led to me feeling calmer and more focused when I returned (effect). - I also saw it in relationships: when I reached out to a friend to check in (cause), they opened up to me more and we strengthened our bond (effect). Overall, I’m beginning to see that small decisions ripple into bigger emotional outcomes — both positive and negative. Past Trauma Assignment One past trauma I experienced was growing up in a household where expressing emotions wasn’t safe. The cause was a parent who often responded with anger when I shared my feelings. The effect was that I learned to bottle emotions and avoid confrontation. Over time, this shaped my adult relationships — I struggled to set boundaries or trust that my needs would be met. Now, I notice the pattern when I withdraw instead of speaking up. Through this course and reflection, I’m starting to see how the past cause created present effects — and how I can change the cycle by practicing safe self-expression and boundary-setting. Tasking Week 2 You’re OK / I’m OK This week, I noticed how my thinking fell into different “life positions.” - You’re OK / I’m Not OK:Staff 1 sent an email to staff 2 which upset staff 2, but staff 1 didn’t think there was anything wrong with the email - You’re Not OK / I’m not OK:Staff 2 said she thought the email was rude and thought staff 1 should apologise for the things said in the email - You’re Not OK / I’m Not OK:staff 1 did not think that she should apologise for the email because she did not think it need to be apology for. Staff 1 said she wanted an apology - You’re OK / I’m OK (healthy position):Staff 2 explained why she thought an apology was necessary. Staff 1 apologies when she realised staff 1 was upset about the things said in the email41

Week 7 Example of using the SAFE Framework Situation: One partner came home stressed from work and snapped about the house being untidy. Stability: Instead of reacting defensively, the other partner kept their tone calm and suggested they sit down with a cup of tea before talking further. This reduced immediate tension and created a safe emotional space. Acknowledgement: They said, “I hear that you’ve had a tough day, and the mess feels like too much right now. I get why you’re frustrated.” This validated the emotion without escalating conflict. Framework: Together they revisited the household agreement — that chores would be shared and completed by the weekend rather than daily. This reminded both of them of their routine and gave predictability. Empowerment: The stressed partner was invited to choose: “Would you like me to help clear the living room now, or would it help if we tackled it together tomorrow morning?” This gave them a sense of control and collaboration. Effect: The conflict de-escalated, both felt heard, and instead of an argument, they ended with a clear plan and restored emotional closeness.