It’s ok to walk away from friendships that no longer bring value to your life. From friends you may have had years of good memories with but no longer follow your morals or path of development. From friends that have become a negative presence in your life. It’s so easy to cling on to hope that people will change, that you’ll get the positive version back that you first met and loved having in your life, but hope can be a dangerous thing, as you cling to it, it drowns you, but at some point you have to cut lose and go up for air to see clearly again.

Healing and learning to love yourself after a toxic relationship is a true test of character. The mental and emotional toll my last relationship left on me was a lot, add uprooting my life, moving away from the life I’d built with a 2 year old daughter and I was practically a shadow of myself. In the dark days you think it will never improve, that there’s no light at the end of the tunnel but there is. I began to open up slowly, building new friendships, setting goals, finding new healthier hobbies and habits. I refound my purpose; not as someone who needed to be in a relationship to have value or worth, but as someone who was strong and independent enough to do things for herself. Someone who wanted to be able to say I did that, I achieved that. Someone for my daughter to look up to when she’s older and realise her worth isn’t measured by others but how she feels about herself. For anyone going through something similar, whether it’s a breakup, a big change, an identity crisis remember to be kind to yourself. Trust in your mind and body, it knows what to do. There will be good and bad days, but the good days will become more frequent if you give yourself the space to heal. ❤️

I have struggled with body image/dysmorphia since my teens and no matter what I did I never saw changes to my body and fell into unhealthy restrict/binge relationships with food. But this year after a breakup I began bouldering and with the support of close friends I broke my unhealthy relationship with food and bad habits, my body has completely changed both visually and physically so much since July when I started the journey and I can't wait to carry on into 2025 with my new lease of life. For anyone who thinks it's impossible or too late it's not! Pics climbing are now and last 2 are from Before I got active 💪