Anyone in Europe from my followers? 🫶🏼

hey my lovely readers and followers Im thinking to make an educational meeting in real life, let's see who's where at the moment? lets see maybe ill be in your city next!

Life feels chaotic sometimes, doesn’t it? News, work, relationships, expectations it’s like your nervous system never gets a break. Here’s the thing: your inner state directly shapes your sexuality. When the body is stressed, anxious, or on high alert: - desire can disappear 🔥➡️❄️ - arousal can feel blocked - intimacy feels complicated - pleasure becomes harder to access Sexuality thrives on safety and presence, not on performance or “trying harder.” How to protect your calm in a turbulent world 🌊 1️⃣ Notice your body first 🫶 Your breath, shoulders, jaw, heart rate: these are your early warning signals. 2️⃣ Create small moments of safety 🕯️ Even 5 minutes of grounding, stretching, or mindful breathing gives your nervous system a break. 3️⃣ Shift attention from “doing” to “being” 🪞 Stop multitasking. Feel your body, sensations, and environment. Presence strengthens desire. 4️⃣ Let go of control when you can ✨ Trying to control everything drains energy from your body and your libido. Allow your nervous system to feel contained, not pressured. 🙄 Why this matters for sex and sexuality Calm = availability. When your nervous system feels safe: - desire flows more naturally - arousal becomes easier - intimacy feels connecting, not anxious - erotic identity can emerge without shame or performance Your sexual self is a reflection of your inner environment. Create space inside, and your sexuality will have room to breathe. 🙋‍♀️ What’s one small thing you can do today to give your nervous system a break and how do you think that would change your experience of desire or intimacy?

Hello everyone! Happy new year and how's your first month of the year so far? 😏 This year I wish us a little less violence toward ourselves, our bodies, our desires, our nervous systems. Less “I should but more honesty, more presence. More listening to what’s really happening inside instead of pushing through. And that’s exactly why I want to start the year with this topic — sex as a way we regulate ourselves emotionally. Because very often sex isn’t just about pleasure. Let’s talk about that 👇 Let’s be clear: Sex can regulate the nervous system. The problem starts only when it’s the only way. When used consciously, sex can support regulation by: - releasing accumulated stress - bringing the body out of hyper-arousal - restoring a sense of safety and connection - helping emotions move instead of getting stuck The key difference is presence. Not “I disappear into sex so I don’t feel.” But: “I’m here, in my body, feeling and sex becomes part of that process.” Healthy regulation through sex looks like: - awareness of what you’re using it for - choice (not compulsion) - the ability to stop, slow down, or shift - integration afterward, not emptiness I like to think about BDSM in this regard. How people use BDSM to work with emotions BDSM, at its best, is structured emotional regulation. It offers: - clear roles - defined boundaries - consensual intensity - a container for strong feelings This is why people often bring difficult emotions into BDSM spaces: - fear - helplessness - anger - shame - grief - desire for control or surrender In a conscious dynamic, BDSM allows: - fear → to be felt safely - helplessness → to become chosen surrender - control → to be explored without domination in real life - shame → to be seen and metabolized instead of hidden The nervous system learns something new: “I can feel this and survive it.” it allows to integrate and live trough emotions safely. Not: “I use sex so I don’t feel.”

Im glad to see here new members. Please don't hesitate to tell us more about yourself here and help to shape the content of this community so it's useful for everyone! Also, please check the rules of community here. I promise to be more consistent with posting. I’m still trying to find a balance between life and work - apparently, I prefer the present moment over being glued to my laptop. I’m sure many of you can relate 😂 (BTW, being present is one of the best things you can do for your sexuality and for your mental health in general 😉) Im continuing my nomadic lifestyle. Recently I left Barcelona and Spain for good, right now I'm on my road trip across Europe. Currently Im traveling in Côte d'Azur. Right now I'm writing this text in Monaco 🇲🇨 Sending you good vibes, some photos and some new articles I wrote on the way. P.S.: Im renting out my apartment in center of Barcelona, If anyone here is interested, you’re very welcome to my home.