I’m a bit late.

When i was small I was very safeguarded by my parents like they didn't let me do anything on my own even they had good intentions and i don't blame them. the pattern was I couldn't trust myself to do basic tasks. for example if a guest came over my parents would ask my brother to get a cold drink out from the fridge and pour it out. my brother always was lazy so couldn't wanted me, but my parents didn't think I can do it without messing up. i just wasn't trusted with anything. it hit me when it was a problem when i was taking the bus home because i was very stressed out and didn't trust myself that i could do it without messing up. I was thinking i wasn't even trusted to pour a drink out and now i should trust myself to do this. it was big task at the time. How i got over it i was just collecting evidence that i can. it was like i can go and do a job interview by myself. i was doing a lot of things by myself. i would exchnage clothes by myself. i got to a spot where i thought i can do this so I could do that and trusted myself i can do anything. This is just my experience but I thought it could help

My default pattern is the shrinker and it shows up most when i meet new people and it’s cost me new people not seeing the actual me just the quiet me

This week you will handle a tense personal conversation. Explain yourself clearly and calmly under pressure. Scenario:🚨 📱 You ignored an important message from someone close to you for two days. 😠 They think you were being disrespectful or avoiding them. ⚠️ They confront you about it in person. 📢 The mood is awkward and emotional. 🎥 Task: Record a 45–90 second video as if you are speaking directly to them. Cover 👇 • Why you didn’t reply • Acknowledge how it made them feel • Take responsibility • What you’ll do differently next time Focus 🧠 • Calm tone • No defensiveness • Don’t over-explain • Pause before responding • Speak slowly 📥 Attach your video in the comments below.