Here is my commitment Letter to myself! I'm working through this on my own and with you all hopefully listening out there.... It's very valuable to have done this exercise. Here is the ADHD friendly summary: 1. I'm choosing nourishing friendships to support my big dreams coming to fruition 2. I'm choosing to prioritize in real life offerings, even though they don't make much financial sense but they do light me (and everyone else) up so I make no apologies for being big in local community. The key philosophy: I am choosing a life that feeds me as much as I give. The full version if you have time to read it: I, Debs, am here because I can feel the difference between a life that looks full and one that actually feels nourishing. I have spent too long carrying too much, being needed rather than truly met, and hoping things would fall into place without choosing them properly. I don’t want to feel hunted, drained, or alone in a busy life. I want to feel connected, valued, and supported by people who see me as I am becoming. I am building a life where my friendships are precious and necessary, not optional. I choose people who nourish me, and I take responsibility for investing in those relationships ahead of time. I do not wait until I am empty and hope something appears. I create connection while it is alive, and I protect it in my week. I am also building a local body of work that matters. I create classes that are joyful, full, and meaningful to the people in them. I allow myself to be seen, to be valued, and to be paid properly for what I bring. I lead the work and let others support the running of it. I am no longer working for peanuts or staying where I am under-recognised. I commit to showing up in small, real ways each week. Not perfectly, but consistently. I will invest early in what matters, even when it would be easier to delay or drift. I will not rely on last-minute energy or miracles to hold my life together. When it gets hard, and it will, I will come back to what I know is true. I will return to my two Big Rocks: nourishing friendships and building my local classes. I will simplify rather than overwhelm myself. I will do the next small step.

I know we have all been commenting on each other's posts, giving insight s. Sharing humor etc. I am unable to join the 6 week program and mentally fell into a bit of a rut and I started telling myself some negative stories. I was feeling a but sorry for myself and was just going to drop off the radar as everyone was going ahead and leaving me. I reflected on how I felt during the challenge and connecting with this community. and it felt so good to have a space where I felt seen & understood and that I was not alone. I know a connected with a few other people that I communicated with via posts etc Suggestion: Maybe we can start a message thread to stay connected in the community, check in etc. Hoping to make some lasting connections.

Recently, I’ve shared LOTS of free value, and in return, I asked you to actively engage, support one another, and take your check-ins seriously. And many of you have actually done just that. And... as a result, we’ve moved up from 34th to 29th place in the “self-improvement” category on Skool. The top 30. That means I’m now among the top 1% of community builders on the platform, what a huge dopamine hit this morning when I woke up to see the star emoji. But let's be real... that badge is just as much yours as it is mine. Every like, comment, check-in pushes us up. Which means more people with ADHD can now find this place and get the help they need. You're all incredible. Thank you. 🙏

Yesterday I decided to go out and work on my land for an hour…4 1/2 hrs later I walked back into the house shocked that I’d been out there that long! I did get a lot done. Do you get time blindness? I get it when I’m outside in nature and when I’m creating with my hands.

I feel like I’ve spent most of my life on a sleep-improvement world tour. I’ve been through the UK sleep specialists at Guy’s Hospital, completed all the CBT-i courses, and I’m on prescription melatonin. At one point they did a polysomnography and told me my brainwaves were so busy all night they’d “never quite seen anything like it before.” Apparently ADHD brains like to host a midnight rave. My total sleep - 19 minutes! They hadn't seen that before in a dark room with zero stimulus... My issue isn’t getting to sleep — it’s staying asleep. Classic maintenance insomnia. The ironic bit is that my sleep efficiency is about 98% because I’m so deprived that when I do sleep, my body clings to it like a lifeboat. During CBTi treatment (which the hospital said was the worst thing the doctor could have advised me to do) I was prevented from lying down at all in the day and actually went to sleep standing up! So yes, I completely agree with Jim that sleep is the key to everything. If only following the advice automatically unlocked the result! Sometimes listening to seminars about sleep can feel a bit like being told to “just relax” while your brain is juggling flaming bowling pins. If anyone else is in the “I’m doing all the right things and still awake at 3am” club, please tell me your story. I promise strong empathy and absolutely zero judgement. ❤️