I’m about to call someone out today. Maybe it’s you.Maybe it’s your best friend. Maybe it’s the version of you pretending everything is “fine” in dating when your soul is like… absolutely not. Because here’s what I keep seeing. You say you want real love. You crave connection, honesty, passion, partnership. But the second someone shows up with potential, you start choosing chaos over clarity. You: 😬 entertain the person who gives you anxiety instead of the one who gives you peace. 😬 chase the attention that feels addictive instead of the connection that feels aligned 😬 ignore red flags and then act stunned when they bite. 😬 stay in “almost relationships” because it feels familiar, even when it drains the life out of you. And here’s the plot twist. You’re not confused. You’re conditioned. Conditioned to mistake intensity for intimacy. Conditioned to crave what wounds you. Conditioned to repeat old patterns because at least you know how they end. Listen. You deserve someone who meets you. Fully. Openly. Intentionally. Love isn’t hiding from you. Your patterns are blocking the view. So here’s your gentle, playful nudge for the day. If you want a different outcome, you have to stop being loyal to the experiences that broke you. You don’t need to work harder. You need to choose better. If you dared to be fully honest with yourself today, what’s the one dating pattern you know you’re ready to retire? Share it below.

am Prisca,am a single mom,I live in LA,Lancaster and I joined this community so I can meet other single parents who would want to experience what love feels like again

If your texting feels needy, rushed, or desperate, the other person feels it long before you notice it. And they pull back. Needy does not mean you are a bad person. It usually means you are texting too fast, sending multiple messages before they reply, dropping heavy emotional truths too early, sending photos they did not ask for, or trying to force connection before it exists. Most people do this because they are excited or nervous, not because they are manipulative. But the impact is the same. It creates pressure instead of safety. People respond to presence. Space. Steady confidence.If you want a real connection, step back and let the conversation breathe. Ask thoughtful questions. Match their pace. Let things unfold naturally. You already know how it feels when someone comes at you with too much, too fast. It is overwhelming. Do not bring that energy to someone you are just getting to know. If you want help shifting how you come across so your conversations feel safe, engaging, and magnetic, DM me. I can help you change this in a grounded and powerful way. 💛

I need a friend,my own person I can always talk to when am down💔

My friend and I had our truck stuck on the edge of a very steep incline on a mountain in a full on rainstorm last night. Like… wheels-spinning, heart-pounding, this-could-go-very-bad steep. Luckily we were in the road leading to her friend's house, and the truck was nestled against a pole (We were definitely being watched out for!) As they were helping us pull the truck out, strangers that were walking by came straight toward us to help. No hesitation. No checking to see if someone else would do it first. No assumption we all had it taken care of (even though the truck and rope were getting tied up at that moment.) Just immediate connection, support, and community. And it hit me how different this feels from so much of what we experience in the States, where people often drive by assuming you have a phone and help is already on the way and because there’s always somewhere important to be. But what really stayed with me wasn’t the truck. It was the energy. Warmth. Presence. People who show up for each other without urgency, without performance, without emotional armor. My nervous system softened the moment I arrived here in CR. My whole body exhaled. And it made me notice something I’ve been seeing everywhere lately. There’s a lot happening in the world right now, and so many people are walking around with anxious hearts and overwhelmed nervous systems. Even if you don’t watch the news (I don't!), the cultural energy has shifted dramatically in the last five years. Stress hits faster because our nervous systems never returned to baseline after COVID. Fear sits heavier because people feel their survival or lifestyle is threatened, consciously or unconsciously. Emotional tolerance is low. Differences in beliefs trigger defensiveness, anger, or withdrawal. It becomes hard to stay curious. Hard to stay open. Hard to stay grounded when the world feels loud, polarized, and intense. Beliefs start feeling personal and something to protect. Differences start feeling dangerous.