I’m about to call someone out today. Maybe it’s you.Maybe it’s your best friend. Maybe it’s the version of you pretending everything is “fine” in dating when your soul is like… absolutely not. Because here’s what I keep seeing. You say you want real love. You crave connection, honesty, passion, partnership. But the second someone shows up with potential, you start choosing chaos over clarity. You: 😬 entertain the person who gives you anxiety instead of the one who gives you peace. 😬 chase the attention that feels addictive instead of the connection that feels aligned 😬 ignore red flags and then act stunned when they bite. 😬 stay in “almost relationships” because it feels familiar, even when it drains the life out of you. And here’s the plot twist. You’re not confused. You’re conditioned. Conditioned to mistake intensity for intimacy. Conditioned to crave what wounds you. Conditioned to repeat old patterns because at least you know how they end. Listen. You deserve someone who meets you. Fully. Openly. Intentionally. Love isn’t hiding from you. Your patterns are blocking the view. So here’s your gentle, playful nudge for the day. If you want a different outcome, you have to stop being loyal to the experiences that broke you. You don’t need to work harder. You need to choose better. If you dared to be fully honest with yourself today, what’s the one dating pattern you know you’re ready to retire? Share it below.

If your texting feels needy, rushed, or desperate, the other person feels it long before you notice it. And they pull back. Needy does not mean you are a bad person. It usually means you are texting too fast, sending multiple messages before they reply, dropping heavy emotional truths too early, sending photos they did not ask for, or trying to force connection before it exists. Most people do this because they are excited or nervous, not because they are manipulative. But the impact is the same. It creates pressure instead of safety. People respond to presence. Space. Steady confidence.If you want a real connection, step back and let the conversation breathe. Ask thoughtful questions. Match their pace. Let things unfold naturally. You already know how it feels when someone comes at you with too much, too fast. It is overwhelming. Do not bring that energy to someone you are just getting to know. If you want help shifting how you come across so your conversations feel safe, engaging, and magnetic, DM me. I can help you change this in a grounded and powerful way. 💛

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Men, you don’t need to go overboard on a first date. You want to show her who you are and actually see if she’s compatible with you. You’ve probably seen the reels where women get offended because a guy took them for a picnic, a coffee, or something simple. And here’s the truth. If you want a woman who values you and not what you spend, taking her somewhere you enjoy, something meaningful, easy, and fun is one of the best ways to see if she aligns with your world. The first date isn’t about impressing her with money or performance. It’s about creating connection. It’s about seeing if you enjoy each other enough to want a second date. Yes, be thoughtful. Yes, make space for her to feel comfortable. And do it in a way that is real and authentic to who you are. If she vibes with the real you, that’s the woman you want. The rest isn't worth your time. In the classroom there's a class called Looking For Love. Check it out and it will help you identify other ways to make sure you are attracting the right match for YOU!

Most men get friend-zoned because they give too much too fast before any romantic tension is built. When you rush into effort, gestures, and emotional support without establishing attraction, she naturally files you under “safe but not sexual.” Overall, the friend zone isn’t the worst place to be. Having good women in your life is valuable, but if you want to be seen as a potential partner instead of a pleasant placeholder, you’ve got to pace your energy and show you are interested. Comment below if you keep getting friend zoned and are tired of it and let's chat!