A lot of us keep saying, “My child doesn’t listen.” But have we actually trained them how to listen? Listening is not just hearing your voice. Listening means they stop, focus, understand, and respond with action. And that has to be taught. Sometimes our children are not ignoring us because they’re “bad.” Sometimes they are overstimulated, distracted, confused, used to repeated warnings, or they’ve learned that we don’t really mean it until we yell. So today, we’re not just correcting “you don’t listen.” We’re training what listening looks like. Try this: Get close before giving the instruction.Say their name.Make eye contact if they can handle that.Give one clear instruction.Ask them to repeat it back.Then follow through. Example: “Jordan, put your shoes by the door.” Then ask: “What did I ask you to do?” If they repeat it, now you know they heard you. If they don’t do it, the issue is not hearing anymore now it’s follow-through. And parents, this matters because some of us are giving instructions from across the house, while the TV is on, while they’re playing, while we’re already irritated, then we get mad when they don’t move. Slow down and train the skill. Listening is a skill. Following instructions is a skill. Responding without attitude is a skill. And skills need practice. Today’s training step: Pick one instruction and train your child through it calmly. Not a lecture.Not yelling from another room.Not repeating it 12 times. Just clear, close, calm, and consistent. Say this today: “In our home, listening means you stop, hear, and follow through.” Question for today: Where does listening break down the most in your home? A. They don’t stop what they’re doing B. They say “okay” but don’t move C. They argue first D. They act like they didn’t hear you E. You repeat yourself too many times F. You end up yelling before they listen Two more post today on listening coming soon

Kingdom parents, this week we are shifting the conversation. We’ve been talking about discipline, consistency, boundaries, yelling, tiredness, moods, and calm boring consistency. Now lets go deeper Your child does not just need correction.They need training. A lot of what we keep punishing, we may have never actually taught. We tell them to listen, but have we trained them how to listen? We tell them to clean, but have we shown them what “clean” actually means? We tell them to calm down, but have we taught them what to do when their body feels overwhelmed? We tell them to pray, but have we modeled how to talk to God? We tell them to apologize, but have we trained them how to take responsibility and repair? This week, we’re not just asking, “Why won’t my child behave?” We’re asking “Have I trained them for what I keep expecting from them?” That question may humble us, but it will also help us grow. So welcome to Training Week. We are going to talk about how to train our children in listening, cleaning, calming down, apologizing, responsibility, handling no, and walking with God. Not perfectly. Faithfully. Because kingdom parenting is not just reacting to behavior. It’s building character. Question for today: What is one thing you realize you’ve been correcting, but you may need to start training your child in?

We’ve been talking about discipline, boundaries, consistency, and being tired. Now let’s talk about yelling. A lot of us don’t yell because we want to hurt our children. We yell because we feel ignored.We yell because we’re overwhelmed.We yell because we asked nicely five times.We yell because we feel like nothing else works. If yelling is the only thing that gets movement, then we have trained the house to wait until we explode. This week, we’re not just asking, “How do I stop yelling?” We’re asking: What needs to change so yelling is no longer the alarm system in my home? Maybe it’s giving instructions once, then following through. Maybe it’s lowering the amount of warnings. Maybe it’s creating clear consequences. Maybe it’s pausing before responding. Maybe it’s addressing disrespect earlier instead of waiting until you snap. What usually happens right before you yell? A. You feel ignored B. You repeated yourself too many times C. The house is too loud D. Your child gets disrespectful E. You’re already overstimulated F. You waited too long to correct it G. You feel like yelling is the only thing that works Drop your letter below and if you need prayer on this topic pray with me : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j_guYuMvvGg&t=187s

Kingdom parents, let’s keep this conversation going. We’ve been talking about consistency, tiredness, boundaries, and what makes us fold. Now let’s talk about something that hits home A lot of us are not disciplining from a standard. We’re disciplining from a mood. When we feel rested, we explain calmly. When we feel overwhelmed, we yell. When we feel guilty, we let it slide. When we feel embarrassed, we overreact. When we feel tired, we don’t address it at all. And then our children don’t know what to expect from us. Honestly....that’s confusing. The same behavior gets ignored on Monday, yelled at on Wednesday, and punished heavy on Friday because we finally snapped. That’s inconsistency and not fair Our children need to know the boundary does not change just because our mood changed. Ask Yourself............................. Am I correcting this because it violates the standard, or because I’m irritated right now? That question will save you from a lot of unnecessary yelling. Discipline should not be driven by embarrassment, exhaustion, anger, or guilt. It should be driven by love, wisdom, correction, and leadership. Today, before you correct, pause and pray “Lord, help me respond from wisdom, not my mood.” Then correct the behavior without dumping your emotions on your child. Because we’re not just trying to raise obedient children. We’re trying to become steady parents. Question for today: Which mood affects your discipline the most? A. Anger B. Tiredness C. Guilt D. Embarrassment E. Overwhelm F. Fear

Kingdom parents, today we talked about being tired and still needing to follow through. Now let’s talk about the part that makes a lot of parents uncomfortable… The pushback A lot of us can set the boundary.The hard part is keeping the boundary when the child starts crying, arguing, begging, getting an attitude, slamming doors, saying “you’re mean,” or making us feel guilty. That’s where consistency is tested. Not when everything is calm. Consistency is tested when your child does not like your answer. Your child being upset does not automatically mean you are doing something wrong. Sometimes they are upset because they are learning that your word actually means something.Sometimes they are upset because the old pattern is being interrupted.Sometimes they are upset because they were used to wearing you down, and now you are standing firm. That does not mean we become harsh. It means we become steady. This week, practice saying “I hear you, but the answer is still no.” “I understand you’re upset, but the consequence still stands.” “You can be mad, but you cannot be disrespectful.” “I love you too much to argue with you about a boundary I already explained.” “I’m not changing my answer because you’re upset.” We’re inconsistent because we don’t want to sit with our child’s disappointment. But disappointment is not damage.Correction is not rejection.Boundaries are not cruelty.Your child can feel upset and still be safe.Your child can be disappointed and still be loved.Your child can cry and still learn. Tonight’s question: What usually makes you fold after setting a boundary? A. Crying B. Attitude C. Begging D. Feeling guilty E. Being too tired to argue F. Your child saying hurtful things G. You just want peace in the house Drop your letter below.