Part of the assignment was to slow down and get clear on what I’d want each member of my family to say about me. That part felt grounding. Hopeful. Connecting. I felt grateful. And then came the curveball I didn’t see coming. “What are the things you are doing that the typical husband or dad is not doing?” I just sat there. Wide-eyed. My first thought was:…shit. I don’t know. Because if I’m honest, my brain immediately went to everything I struggle with: I’m inattentive. I’m often self focused. My nervous system gets overwhelmed easily. Im snappy I have time blindness I started life a decade behind my biological peers. I leave cabinet doors open. I forget birthdays and appointments I hyperfocus on things that don’t always serve me—knives, backpacks, keyboards. I’m impulsive. And when I stripped all that away and asked the harder question Am I actually doing anything different than a typical husband or dad? The answer felt uncomfortably close to no. Yes, I show up. Yes, I engage. Yes, I work on myself almost every day trying to understand who I am, how ADHD shows up in my life, and how it impacts the people I love. I attempt to take the things others tell me and show up more aware. Conscientious. There’s a quote that says having ADHD is working twice as hard to get half as far, while being told you’re not trying hard enough. But for most of my life, I’ve been fighting and clawing just to reach baseline. And baseline is exhausting. That’s part of the trap for those of us with ADHD: We start believing the baseline is the goal. I once said I was doing better than my parents at awareness, connection, participation. Someone replied, “And that’s the goal?” That one hit hard. Because the answer is no. Because there is still room to grow Especially when others closet to you need you to. This isn't about shame Or guilt Or not being good enough. This is about what is takes to be the husband and father I want to be. Desire to be. This is about who I want to be now

Ever feel like the world is working against your brain? There’s a reason. Our systems school, work, even family expectations were built for one kind of mind: linear, consistent, predictable. But ADHD brains? We’re not built on straight lines. We run on variable attention, creativity, rapid pattern recognition, intuition, and high-focus only when something actually matters. And here’s the real problem: We’re taught to succeed using systems designed for brains that don’t work like ours. It’s like telling someone who needs glasses to squint. A dyslexic to just slow down. A diabetic to produce more insulin. A man in a wheelchair to take the stairs. The issue is the effort. It is the faulty architecture. Our classrooms reward sameness. Our workplaces reward monotony. Our culture rewards consistency over creativity. And at home? Marriage rewards safety over unpredictability. Even with the best intentions, inconsistency feels unsafe to the people who depend on your follow-through. Not because they don’t love you. But because nervous systems respond to patterns, not promises. This is the clash not between you and your family but between your ADHD wiring and the expectations you were never trained to meet. But here’s the truth: ADHD brains thrive on…• novelty meaningful challenge movement connection dopamine-supported structure rest that actually recharges systems that work with our wiring Today’s video isn’t a complaint. Not about being a victim to the system. But a declaration. A declaration to understand. You don’t need to fix your brain. You need systems that finally fit your brain. If you’ve ever wondered: “Why do I struggle in the exact systems everyone else seems to thrive in?”…this is why. And it’s time to rewrite the blueprint. Let’s get into it.

This is not the end. It is the beginning. 30 days ago, you stepped into something most men avoid You decided to face yourself. Not the filtered, “I’ve got it together” version but the real one. The tired one. The distracted one. The man who wants to do right by his family, but didn’t know where to start. And here you are — 30 days later. Not perfect. But present. Persistent. You are facing your patterns You are repairing your connections You have started writing a different story — one your family can feel. Showing up on the hard days. Taking small wins seriously. Leading yourself first, so your family could finally exhale. 💬 Reflection:Take 5 minutes today and answer these 3 questions: 1️⃣ What surprised you most about this process? 2️⃣ What habit or mindset are you proudest of building? 3️⃣ What’s one thing your family might notice that feels different about you now? Then write this final line somewhere you can see it: “I am not a man trying to fix himself. I am a man committed to leading himself — and those he loves — with purpose.” 🔑 Why It Matters: This isn’t a finish line. It is a handoff — from the challenge to the life you are building. You have proven you can create change Now, your job is to sustain it. Awareness isn’t gone. Discipline isn’t finished. Heart isn’t healed once it’s exercised daily. Dedication isn’t a word it’s a rhythm. You did this You started leading through your ADHD instead of losing to it. That is leading a legacy. Now go live it.

You have done the work. Now live it out loud. This isn’t the end — it is your new beginning. You have increased awareness. You have identified a helpful discipline. You know how important it is to led with heart. You are showing dedication to the person you want to become. Now, the real challenge begins: Living it — daily. We are not asking for 100% but 70%? 60% Just start. You are building a system, not a goal. 💬 Today’s Practice: Write your ADHD Oath 2.0 your own declaration of legacy. Iam aware of who I am. I am disciplined in what matters. I am putting down fear so that I can lead with heart. I am dedicated to the family and future I’m building. Read it out loud. Then post it in the group — or keep it somewhere private. 💬 Reflection: “What will my family feel from me 90 days from now if I keep showing up like this?” 🔑 Why It Matters: You don’t graduate from ADHD — you grow with it. You leverage it. This challenge was not about control It was about ownership. You are not a project to fix. That is the old script. You are a man in progress building a legacy of presence, patience, and love. Celebrate you. You deserve it.

Show up again especially after you fall. Discipline is a word that has been used over and over again. If I just had the discipline then I could... But we seem to always fall off, rewrite some goal hoping for a different outcome. But in up slipping into failure and shame. The cycle seems crazy making. But discipline was never about never slipping. It is about returning — over and over — until showing up becomes who you are. What we seem to forget is that we need to tie discipline into something that is meaningful. Something that moves us. Something that turns into a hyperfocus or purpose. Dedication. When dedication meets discipline we become unstoppable. Because when you slip and you will. You will get back on track because the desire to the dedication will default to discipline. 💬 Today’s Practice: Identify one area where you fell off this month — then return to it today. No shame. No reset. Just return. 💬 Reflection: “What’s one promise I’m ready to recommit to — for myself and my family?” 🔑 Why It Matters: Your family doesn’t need a perfect man. They need a present one. Every time you return, you rebuild trust — and prove you’re not the man who quits. Show yourself that your dedication to Awareness, Discipline, Heart, and Dedication are more meaningful than the shame spiral that plagues the ADHD guy.