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Alsalaam aleyikum sisters. I have been preplexed about this issue. If a woman earns more than her husband and expects him to still be the sole provider for the family of course she cannot put pressure on him. However, if she decides to contribute in areas she knows he cannot fulfil, how does that affect her husband? I know some men do not fare well with this. How do you figure this out before you arry him? Also how do you figure out if he is someone who would want to marry you because you do have an income and he has an internal thought of wanting you to contribute as well. Someone may say that he is willing to provide but that does not remain the case later on.

Al salaam aleyikum girlies. How have you all been? Something I have been aware of is the double standard of holding men accountable and making sure they're well vetted, but we do ot hold ourselves to the same standards. I always try my best to check myself, and I've just had a session with myself that I haven't had in a while. I learned that there are some things I need to address that I had not before, considering this time I based it off of my self-made questions rather than those templates online. It is really interesting when suddenly your question is turned against you, and some things you have noticed or are nagging at you suddenly become that exposed. Because let us be real, we would have so much grace for ourselves because we know ourselves in comparison to the men if they gave similar answers. Not that everything should be taken leniently, but we definitely need to know what is a hard stop, as MM said and what can be given grace when having a sit-down. That same energy should also be thrown right back at ourselves regardless of whether we met the hard stops or not. If we haven't, why haven't we? What are we doing to get there? And is not meeting them a sign to pause and do inner work before we find ourselves in a bad situation because of our own actions? So I will sit down with myself again and keep looking into it because, as of now, I know what I am not meeting and need to get into more detail about it and what needs to be immediately addressed and worked on. Just thought I would share this update with you; maybe it could be food for thought. As MM said, we need to find those blind spots because dealing with them without a partner is much more graceful, tbh and saves us a lot of hassle.

A little reflection that's been on my heart lately. 🩷🌷 For the past five years or so, I've been building a marriage journal in Notion. What started as a slightly embarrassing paper-based list I made before university, after my mum accidentally read all the qualities I hoped for in a husband one day (subhan'Allah, was I embarrased! 😂), slowly became something I never could have imagined. It's no longer just a scribbled list on a tatty page in an old slim A6 dusty diary . It's an entire digital system filled with notes from Islamic lectures, khutbahs and halaqahs. Reflections from Qur'an and life. Journal entries. Du'as. Lessons I've learned the hard way. Advice people have shared with me. Little moments of inspiration that I can only describe as gifts from Allah. Things I want to remember, implement, and one day, in shaa Allah, even share with my future spouse. Recently, I found myself thinking, "I'm so behind. This isn't where I thought I'd be by now." Then I opened that journal. SubhanAllah. I realised that although I may not be where I expected to be, Allah SWT has allowed me to build something so much more meaningful than I ever planned. Through hope in Him and having good expectations of Him, He turned what was once a simple wish into something that has become deeply personal and sacred to me. And I thought... maybe that's how Allah's blessings often look. Sometimes we become so focused on what we haven't received yet that we overlook what Allah has quietly been building within us all along. Maybe for you it's not a journal. Maybe it's the resilience Allah has nurtured in your heart. The people He has placed in your life. The knowledge you've gained. The healing you've experienced. The opportunities that arrived when you least expected them. The person you've become through all the waiting. If you're feeling behind today, take a moment to look back before looking ahead. You might just find that Allah has already written so much beauty into your story, beauty you were too busy waiting for the next chapter to notice.

The person you say "I do" to today won't be the exact same person 10, 20 years from now.. and neither will you. That's not a bad thing. That's just life. So when you're evaluating someone, don't get too attached to the things that are guaranteed to shift: ❌ Looks change. ❌ Careers change. ❌ Preferences change. ❌ Even personalities soften, sharpen, or evolve with age and life experience. What you should really be paying attention to is: 1️⃣ Their relationship with Allah... not performative religiosity, but a real, sincere connection with their deen. This is what shapes how they handle hardship, temptation, and responsibility over time. 2️⃣ Their character.. how they treat people when no one's watching. How they speak to their mother. How they treat someone who can't do anything for them. How they handle being wrong. Because when life gets hard (and it will), it's not their salary or their looks that will hold your marriage together. It's their deen. It's their character. That's what doesn't break under pressure. 💬 What's one character trait you consider non-negotiable in a spouse?